Ow @agmoore, thank you so much for taking the time to read and leave yet another wonderful comment on my feed! Yep, we do hold the same opinions with regard to the wives reporting about their husbands feelings for them. However, we can still get some valuable information from that 'the fact that they feel loved'. I find that particularly interesting.
I knew about the troubled relationship Tolstoy had with his wife. Apparently they were very different in many, many ways. I remember reading before about her dislike towards his personal views of wealth and social status. I didn't know that she wrote a diary about their life together, though. And, considering how much I love him, if I get to read it, it will be painful to see his dark side 😅
This is so well put
in the beginning we love the person we think we see, often a reflection of what we want to see
but, if I may, I would like to add one little thing :
... or, the person we expect they become.
As I have seen in many, many cases!
I wish you a wonderful day ahead dear @agmoore.
Take care :*
You're welcome. Your insight, gently offered, often brightens the day.
I've been married for a long time now. My husband and I have shed so many skins, gone through so many stages. Yet, from time to time, we remind each other of our naive selves and the pieces of those selves that remain. We love those memories, and, as you say, the people we have become. But between then and now there were major challenges.
As for Tolstoy. The classics helped me get through high school. I needed a wider view of the world than my home or community gave me. It turns out, the people who wrote those books were less wise than I thought. But I can accept that and still appreciate their genius. It's just startling, and disappointing, when an icon steps off the pedestal and assumes human form.
I appreciate your comment, and your warm wishes. I look forward to reading so much more from you. But until then, enjoy your vacation!