This is very good and well explained! This practice reminds me of a book written by Tara Brach called Radical Acceptance. She is Buddhist and has great examples about how simply holding a feeling in loving awareness is healing because so much of what bothers us in life is what we don't accept in our self or others.
When thinking of anger the practice is the same. You don't have to force yourself to love your anger because that is ignoring how much you dislike being angry. Hold your dislike for your anger in loving awareness and now your begin to feel that expansive meta state that you describe.
I like that you go one step beyond and turn it into something positive that we can love and appreciate which is such a high vibration to be in. In Tara's book she speaks of a client who is angry at herself for being a mean mother when her daughter was young. I feel that when we are bringing up repressed feelings to heal that we should probably spend quite a bit of time just sitting in loving attention with the pain that we have tried to avoid. After some time letting that feeling be released through feeling or expression then we can find give our self the gift of gratitude. We can even feel gratitude while we feel shitty because we know how healing it is to allow.
Great post!
Exactly. We need to consciously validate our feelings. They are there, they happened. And no matter what they are a reality and cannot be changed. We can change future reactions, but the ones in the past simply need to be accepted for what they are, while we are being kind to ourselves and not judgemental.
Ah! I love what you shared here @aprilangel. Acceptance is such a powerful tool, strategy, and support system, especially when we're deal with the deep stuff. That mixed with gratitude (as you said) allows you to deal with anything and everything that comes you way. Thanks so much for reading and sharing. I so appreciate you!