Thanks for your vulnerability. I can definitely empathize, though I err on the side of verbally reactive, especially with my spouse. The other strong reaction I have seems to be flight.
I am happy to hear you are at the point you feel this is 90% managed, and as you said, its important to recognize where you can still be wrong and that there remains that margin of growth potential. I appreciate your heart and thanks again for sharing! It challenges me to process how my anxiety manifests and what I can do about it.
That "margin of growth potential" is what makes relationships work. I'm so glad to hear you are inspired to challenge yourself. Thank you!