How to deal with people who are talking against us, who betrayed our friendship and trust we had in them. It seems unfortunately that everyone has such experiences in life. that usually speak much more about those people who have done it or are still doing it than about us..
Take your time, read and watch that from today on the heavy bag you are wearing needs to become a light bag, or even better, that you do not have it on your back.
Story goes like this:
One day, the wise man gave one student an empty bag and a basket full of potatoes. "Think of all the people who have said or did something against you, in particular those who you can not forgive.
Any such name should be carved into each potato and put all such potatoes in the bag. "
Young student remembered many names and shortly his bag was full of potatoes.
"Seven days you will carry the bag with you wherever you go," said the wise man.
"After that, we'll talk again."
Student found that task very easy at first glance. Wearing a bag of potato seemed not very difficult. But after a while, his bag was a real burden. It was harder and harder to pick it up on his shoulder, though it was just as heavy as the first day of the job. After a few days the bag started to smell. Potatoes were rotten and not only was it an awkward thing to carry them with, but it was rather embarrassing.
Seven days have passed.
The wise man called young student and asked him: "Have you thought about this?"
"Yes, Master," answered the student. "When we can not ignore these people, forget about them and what they have done to us, and above all forgive them, we carry these negative feelings everywhere with us, just as I was wearing potatoes. Negative is a burden, and in time it becomes more and more difficult. "
- "Yes, it just happens when we cannot forget somebody and what do you think, how can we relieve that burden? "
- "We must strive to forgive in ourselves and because of ourselves."
- "Forgiving a man who hurt you would mean to permanently remove one potato from a bag. How many people are you willing to forgive and forget about them? "
"I've been thinking a lot about that, master," student said. "Although it requires for me a lot of effort, I have decided to forgive everyone."
- "Excellent, that means we can take out all the potatoes. Was somebody mean with you this week? "The student was thinking a little, and then admitted that there were such people but he was afraid that his empty bag would be filled with potatoes again.
"Master," the student asked.
"If I keep on doing this, will it be potatoes in my bag each and every week?"
"Yes, as long as people speak against you or work against you, and you give it importance, then the bag will be full of potato.
"But, teacher, we can not control the actions of other people. How can wisdom help us in this case? "
"We have not yet come to the right wisdom. All we have been discussing so far is the usual relationship with forgiveness. Different philosophers and different faiths teach us the same thing - we must strive to forgive, for it is a great virtue and above all it is necessary for us, not for those we are deceiving.
But this is not the full wisdom, because true wisdom comes easily and does not know the aspiration. ""What would it be master?"
"You can answer that question yourself. If the potatoes are our negative feelings, what is the bag? "
"Bag is ... if there is no bag, I do not have something to keep potatoes in.
It is, therefore, something in us that causes us to remain in the feeling of being hurt ... I know what this is to me: I think too much about what others think of me and what they did to me. "
"And what will happen if you stop carrying about it?"
- "Then, anything that people could say or do against me would not be so important anymore.
Of course, I will know who and what person said, but I will not give any emotional weight and all the precious time I have in my life. "
"If that's the case, you do not have to put names on potatoes any more. This means there is no more cargo and no smell anymore. The way of forgiveness is a conscious decision, not only will you remove some potatoes but you will throw away the whole bag. "Forgiveness is the key to happiness. The lack of forgiveness hurts us more than it hurts others. Everything that happens in life is a lesson, a challenge, and a chance to grow. The error can be transformed into gold by learning from it. Forgive is equally to beget rid of ......
Get rid of negativity and enjoy the preciousness of every moment God has given you in this passing world.
On this world, we are only passengers, so let us pay attention to take on less luggage on our back.
It is easier to travel and enjoy more.
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