You are right about manipulation happening here, some people especially begin to insult others to make them angry and after start to complain about them, I am also very careful here, I try to not let my emotions win, but sometimes it's hard to control ourselves, I just block or mute such people,you can't imagine how many people are blocked by me right now. I completely understand you and I wish you never meet such manipulators.
I do very well letting my emotions out in real life and here on Steem. I am not restricting myself to be liked by others.