I'm a ruminator par excellence. I am so incredibly efficient in ruminating, I even ruminate about my own rumination - hence, I'm bascially doing rumiception
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Ahem. Well. I know, this is a bad habit and compared to my past, I'm doing this not that often anymore. It mainly depends how strong my emotional connection to a certain trigger is. If I don't really care, then why bother at all?
Usually, whenever I am confrontated with negative thoughts, I initially think "Well, ok, that guy's an idiot, fuck him."
Then I maybe do some exercise or go to sleep or whatever - the next day, I'm re-evaluating the other guy's statement. If his arguments are valid, then I will consider them carefully. If not, well, then he was indeed an idiot and I shouldn't care at all.
In my experience, the amount of passed time is direct proportional to the decrease of me giving any fucks about something. As trivial as it may sound: time can indeed heal almost every wound - at least the mental ones.
No matter how hard you suffered some years ago, eventually you will not succumb to this suffering anymore, but grow stronger. Either that or you are going to kill yourself at some point.
That is definitely something worthy of putting sunglasses on Ego. You always manage to take everything to the next level.
Still, it is good to hear that 1) you are aware of it; 2) you understand it is not necessarily something productive and 3) that you are improving. Also, like you said, why bother when one doesn't really care? But this is where ruminators fail to make a sound judgment; hence, placing huge importance in every little event.
Similar to you, when I catch myself ruminating I go for a walk, do Yoga, try a new recipe etc... this has never failed (me) to lift at least some of the tension towards a particular situation; which, in turn, allows me to be more rational about it if I need to revisit it late on in a more proactive manner :)
It is indeed interesting how times heals wounds (I/we should write about this!).
You take care Ego 😘
Lots of love ❤ :)