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A couple of hours ago i was watching a Tv show about cooking. You may have heard it, it is called MasterChef and it is played around the world but of course with native chefs most of the time. For example there is Masterchef Italy, MasterChef Greece, MasterChef Vietnman, MasterChef United States ( with the one and only Gordon Ramsay) and the list goes on.
The show is more like a competition between people that can cook either they have work experience or not and through many different tasks they can overcome the others and become the MasterChef. While all the players compete they live all together in a big house, they form ''friendships'' and relationships between them and in general we get to see both the cooking side and the human one behind the show. In other words as i like to call it, it's a cooking reality show.
Having made that intro and after watching the last episode a while ago (it's my weakness i don't know how i ended up watching it) a whole mess had been made because of one familiar word we all know, responsibility.
Responsibility is a very tricky thing as there are many questions that arise but i will try to answer some giving my personal view. Without further delay some of those questions that concerns most of the people and us sometimes are:
Who is gonna take responsibility for that?
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That is the main question i believe and if you wanna answer it correctly you need to clear out your head and think the whole situation over again. if you have a clear head and thinking back there are people that made some crucial mistakes or lot more than you and you are on the same level with them then the answer is obvious.
If you have a position that is higher than the others and you consider that you may made a mistake then you should take it. Likewise if your team is consist of members that you chose then you have to take responsibility for your choices take the total blame and let them know later what they did wrong and how they can improve.
So far so good but the hard part is when your whole career or job is on the line or when you have second thoughts on why you should take responsibilities. that part we gonna solve next!
Why don't i just ''pass'' it to another one?
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Pass it to another person that hasn't done anything wrong is a sign of a coward and really not anything good will come out of it. sooner or later someone will find out if you lack the skills or not and then the whole situation will be really harsh and end up badly. See while people love for things to be done right and solved quickly, they hate way more a liar.
Moreover if you are sensitive person with only a tiny bit amount of caring for the others and you pass the responsibility to another person, slowly you will get damaged inside. By that i mean that something will eat the inside of you psychologically and only lead you into the worst possible mind-state.
At the very listen passing your problems to another person won't solve them, it will just give you that expression but soon enough those problem will arise from the dead again!
Why all the responsibilities gather through him/her/me?
The best or the most suitable answer to that question will be that he/she/you do something wrong. There is no logical answer for all the others to just accuse the same person just because they don't like him/her. Probably that person is the source of the issue either that issue is a lack of skill, a fault or a bad behavior. There are some chances though that a ''conspiracy theory'' might been set up but not everyone will agree with it so you can tell if this is the thing or it just you.
What i have to lose or gain by taking responsibility?
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Taking responsibility and accepting your mistakes is one way to ''man up'' and become a better person. if you have a clear purpose in your life, you know who you are and what you want, which your goals are and who those people you compete for the responsibilities are then you have nothing to afraid. A thing you can gain is extra knowledge that will help you in your life sooner or later.
A reason that you shouldn't blame others if they are part of your team and especially if you chose the members by yourself is that they didn't actually want to screw up. They didn't do this on purpose and everything could have solved if you or another one would provide them with a little bit of help.Also let me be frank here and tell you that you shouldn't blame yourself either, at least not blame yourself by punishing but instead as i mentioned before accept your mistakes and make the changes needed without hurting everybody or his/her/yours feelings.
Finally, taking responsibility and dealing with it in a good way is a sign for everyone that you are person who knows where you stand as well as a sign of a true leader. People seeing this will gain a better opinion for you and start wanna be part of your life or team!
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Accepting responsibilities is also a measure of a person's maturity level. There is really a line between passing a responsibility to another person to lessen your burden as a leader/team member or DELEGATING responsibilities to help a teammate grow.
Human nature is really designed to develop or provide blame when a mishap occurs in their life. If that can be diminished, it would really help the person succeed. Owning up to ones mistakes is hard, but it would be worth it.
I know I am a person that takes responsibilities. It is my role and designation. I was raised to be responsible not just to myself but also to others.
yes really true that maturity levels have to do a lot in this matter. thanks for your comment and i hope as society to somehow evolve a bit and start taking responsibilities for our actions!
Great post and I love the points you have brought up. I suppose if it were me, I do take responsibility however, I shun those who push their responsibility to me.
thanks a lot for your valuable comment i really appreciate it!
i enjoyed watching masterchef usa & korea.
anyways i think extreme ownership by jocko willink is a similar idea. taking responsibilities is never easy for anybody. it requires you to be truly honest to yourself which is already something too difficult for most people. including myself. 😆
hahaha i am glad i am not the only man who watches masterchef :P We are MANY! :P
yea it was a decent show. i dont watch it anymore but i definitely liked it.
For me the whole thing you mention starts from the lack of respect which is the main principle for me . We are not trained to respect our ourselves and so we don't respect the others too. All we care about is to compete with others on how good we are on something and when the responsibility time comes we 'pass' it to other because we know how to do it as we are trained on this course from childhood and if the others succeed, we know how to get the prize from them too.
are we trained for it or because it is so easy to do we just accept it and embrace it? i think we learn a bunch of thing since childhood like respect and stuff but it's way easier to embrace things that don't make us get''tired'' and solve our issues easily!
The thing is ,which option of respect we learn in childhood ...
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Never be afraid to make mistakes, because it's trought these mistakes that we learn, never blame other people for your mistakes, that's just the path of cowards, always improve and try to do better!
In my line of work a mistake can literally cost a life, if i make a mistake when i'm treating an animal, for example, switching a drug for another drug without realizing can kill the animal! When i first joined college i was scared of this, now i see it like this: "I just need to work more study better and be more focused so i don't make one of these mistakes"
and the responsibilities in that kind of work as more harsh too. except the fact it can cost a life it can eat your insides out psychologically everyday.