I do understand where you are coming from @docdelux , unfortunately it is not as simple as that.
As in Asian culture obedience is very crucial as it ties closely with respect , and most times, I too agree, that it is being abused; because of the cultural mentality being brought up.
Bottomline is that the root cause is "self-condemnation".
From there it leads to all sorts of erroneous upbringing, which can be both good and bad, depending how you look at things.
You got to see 2 sides of the story in all situations.
Just to let you know before you think I am being brain washed , my partner is in the tour of duty.
I fell in love with him not because of his uniform, when we met I didn't know he was groomed from the military background.
I admit I was enslaved by self-condemnation, that led to insecurity, and so many other things. And probably that is one of the reasons the attraction was there.
But now...
Even though we are going through tough times still I choose to stay with him not because of the uniform, but because that to see what he and others have to go through, and will be there for him, regardless he is military or civilian.
And that is not enslavement , that is because I am now free (from my bondage) I understand his situation.
So I would hope you will look at 2 sides of the story, some, you can be right, that the girls dig the uniform and they DO look really good in them, and totally is in the mind control thing; but I would also ask of you to see that there might just be other stories behind that we might never know how deep it goes.
ps: Now that I am free, I disagree with total control. That will just kill off our creativity and be who we truly are. And that is not just mental or character surface. It is so much more deeper than that.