So, we'll continue from the brief tale of Anna and Hanna's mornings.
Life succeeds, so Anna's case seems to teach, if we love it. "It", in this case means the people, the spaces, the tasks, the things and tools we encounter and deal with.
When we love them, something like a "vibrating wire" is created between us and the world. On the one hand, this thread is formed by what social psychologists call intrinsic interests: Anna loves her family, her work and playing volleyball; she is interested in these areas for her own sake. Hannah, on the other hand, works to earn a living, she needs her family to avoid being alone, she plays volleyball to stay slim.
Anna's wire vibrates because her self-efficacy expectations are intact: she feels she can "reach" her family, co-workers, and volleyball friends and make or move something in their respective spheres. As a result, she also experiences herself as mobile, as "touchable": she can be reached, moved and seized by other people, by music, by stories, by challenges.
Dumb Resonance
The formation of self-efficacy expectations and intrinsic interests, in turn, correlates with the experience of social recognition: without love, respect and esteem, the line to the world remains intact - if the resonance axes remain rigid and dumb. All in all, Anna feels that she is lifted and carried in the world and in life. Hannah, on the other hand, feels thrown into the world, exposed to it.
Anyone who is unhappy and, in the extreme, depressive, the world seems dumb, empty, hostile, colorless, and at the same time he experiences his own self as cold, dead, empty, deaf. The resonance between self and world remain silent. Does not it follow in turn that the successful life is characterized by "open", vibrating, breathing resonant axes that make the world sound and colorful and your own self moving, sensitive, rich?
Thus...
Sure, these resonances are different from person to person and from culture to culture: you do not have to love volleyball to have a good life, you do not even have to have a family - the polar explorer begins to breathe the ice, and also booming formula 1-motors or heavy metal guitars can create libidinal world relations.
It seems plausible that a variety of factors play a role. There are action contexts in which it is advisable to act ice cold; there are institutions that facilitate the liquefaction of the world relationship and those that hinder it, and the same can be said for cultural traditions. Also, age and sex and even climate and geography and certainly hormone levels may have an impact.
Competition and Speed, it seems, are resonance killers, because they systematically create fear, fear being left behind, being unable to keep up, or else: running faster and having to do more, just to gain a place in the world To hold the world. But this fear, as we have seen at the beginning, creates a problematic world relationship. Why do we know almost nothing about all this? The strict privatization of the question of the good life was a historic mistake - it is time to correct it!
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