Many are unsure as to what happiness entails. They are too busy striving for superficial goals instead of tackling life as it stands. They do not always analyze situations and people they find themselves engaging with.
The key to finding happiness is understanding that it is an ongoing process, not a thing or object to be discovered. Happiness exists in the now. When we wait for happiness we may become repeatedly disappointed.
Writer Nathaniel Hawthorne summed it up best:
"Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."I advise everyone to take the time to analyze their life and determine if they are living for the now. Ask fundamental questions. Do I like my life? Is everything going as I want it to? Am I satisfied with the past? Do have any meaningful relationships? Am I bitter or miserable? If so, why am I bitter or miserable? Is there anything I can do right now that will please me?
Challenge Yourself to Build Happiness; Write Down Your Life
If you want to take it a step further and really challenge yourself, sit down and write those questions out. Then answer them. Think about your answers. Do the answers make sense? If you sat down and did this again the next day would your answers be similar or different?
If the answers you come up with next time don't seem to match, this could be an indicator that you have not been analyzing yourself or answering your questions truthfully. It could be you haven't made your thoughts consistent with your actions.
This exercise puts you in a position ripe for self-analysis and introspection, which is a key ingredient for a human being who wants to evolve as a person.
Do Not Stagnate: Pursue Life with Passion; Happiness is for Everyone
When we don't pursue life with vigor and passion we easily stagnate (fall apart), and lose hope. Psychologists call this fear existential angst, which is a philosophical, extreme fear of dying.
The way to escape this fear is to realize that your mortality implies you exist, that you have inherent meaning. Without existence there would be no meaning, no such concept as happiness. This is how psychologists get people suffering from existential angst to realize they can actually "be in the world" and immerse themselves in existence as a purely humbling and pleasurable experience.
This is what I hope for all of you: to enjoy life and find happiness in being and existence. I find it easy to remember that life is strange...because if we take life too seriously it pummels us and punishes us. The good life is about finding balance and realizing that mortality doesn't mean anything while you are alive, because when you are dead, you are not around to ponder anything anymore anyway.
Find happiness by enjoying life. Reproduce this joy in every action. Love yourself enough to face challenges, depression, darkness, and death. Life is beautiful. Happiness is right there in front of you, even when life sucks.
The man who is aware of himself is henceforward independent; and he is never bored, and life is only too short, and he is steeped through and through with a profound yet temperate happiness.---Virginia Wolf
"If you are depressed you are living in the past. If you are anxious you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present."---Lao Tzu
Sterlin Luxan is a visionary thinker, cryptocurrency junkie, connoisseur of psychology, an MDMA high priest, and the Mr. Rogers of Anarchism. He writes for bitcoin.com, runs a consultancy business in the crypto space, and is a public figure. He created the doctrine of relational anarchism and contributes to many causes in the thriving liberty ecosystem.
@sterlinluxan "When we don't pursue life with vigor and passion we easily stagnate (fall apart), and lose hope."
When I read this, I interpreted it as "When we don't pursue life with vigor and passion, it is the equivalent of running away from the butterfly that is happiness."
Making sure we are doing all we can to allow happiness into our lives will help us do the same for others
awesome post, It's important to cherish our time and work towards being happy as much as we can!!
Lao Tzu's quote was gold just like the rest of your post. Have the courage to ask yourself the right questions and the right answers will resurface.
I refuse to believe there is even a single person alive that isn't capable of looking at himself truly. We just sometimes refuse to.
Nice kind post @sterlinluxan!
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Well said.. straight to the point on true happiness is.. I have to resteemed this because people need to see this and learn
What a great post you have here.. Want more of this.. I followed and resteemed
Very good post. Resteem. Thank you for sharing. Btw butterflies 🦋 are one of favorite creatures I am so glad that you included them to your beautiful words.
True that.. Happiness is evasive. If you pursue it as it's own end goal, you will come up empty. Happiness usually comes as a byproduct of pursuing a bigger goal or something bigger than yourself. From my own experience, it usually comes from going outside yourself and helping others.
Interesting post! Happiness cannot be found outside so true. Thanks for sharing.
Nice thoughts! =) For me happiness is to be free. Just make clear every day what you got in your life and you will see that only our thoughts makes us unhappy.
A friend of mine was sitting in an interview for one of the most prestigious business colleges in India. Towards the end of the interview the panellist asked him if he wanted to ask any questions. The panellist were alumni of the same college. He asked one of the panel members - 'what was your biggest learning during the time you had spent in this college while being occupied with curriculum most of the time in a day', to which the interviewer replied 'i learnt how to be happy even when you are in difficult situations. i learnt how to make fun while working and find small moments to rejoice. i did not wait my job to end and go home and find the particular set of people to be happy with. i learnt how to be happy in different situations.
Excellent post challenge yourself to build happiness para I really like it
Nice kind post @sterlinluxan, very helpful. Followed you! :)
Nice!!!
definitivamente me escanta leer, ver post tan hermosos.
Good and educative post. I am new on steemit please follow me @honart.
You sound awakened. Glad to be following you. (:
good post!!! wow
that a man wake up early and goes to bed late,does that make him a successful man? ofcourse absolutely no,no the simple secret''secret of giving''givers never lack...though patience and hardwork pays.thanks sterlinluxan for that ironic title.it really captivates!
Wow. Great exercise to analyze life. We get so buried in our routine that we forget how to be happy. Usually the goal of everything we are running for, is to be happy, but then in this race of life, we forget the goal itself and keep running for happiness which may be at our doorstep waiting for us to accept it! If only we can slow down and find happiness in small things, life would be so much more beautiful.
beautiful bro,
Nice post
More grace to you
"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way" - Buddha
I was thinking of happiness - past and present - while writing my last post.
Your words fit nicely. I believe happiness is an illusion which we should embrace as much as possible!
100% applied here. Sent people your way in my last post and copied your photo. Hope you don't mind. I can edit ;)
Cheers!