A person walks by with the most intimidating confidence, dressed like it's fashion week on a regular day, and approaches you with absolute certainty of what they want and who they are--a narcissist. Well, I just basically described myself in that sentence, for I know I'm a narcissist myself. Now, how exactly do you know if a person is a narcissist? Here's a list along with my personal stories:
1. Competitive As Fuck
When I was 13, I was constantly compared to a basic girl in my class (by my choice of adjective, you could tell I really feel superior over her), and I would always do things that would catch everyone's attention when the comparison favored her and I obviously wanted it to be in my side. Then there came a time that she was a little bit forgotten already and everyone started talking about me--how amazing I am blah blah blah (note the way I just described my part). Until now, whenever I see her I feel like I'm a winner parading my trophy to a loser.
2. Ego Issues
Like what I said about how it feels like when I see the girl compared to me before, yes it may not mean much but to my ego, any sense of winning is a food for it.
3. Grand Everything
I t started when I was a kid, I was always dressed up as that girl who would catch everyone's attention. I had always been that little girl who wore nice dresses and eye-catching accessories that everyone in the room would always look at me with fondness and even pay me compliments if they just couldn't help it. I enjoy moments like this that's why I still to dress to impress and make sure I do it in a way that would both have everyone's eyes on me and put me in a certain pedestal above others (basic others).
4. Others are Others
When people in my class fail, and God knows how a lot of people believe in helping each other, I feel a sense of joy. I find satisfaction knowing that others are sinking while I'm still out sailing. I could care less what they do or how they feel, but always, knowing that they're feeling inferior makes me feel good about myself.
5. Wise Old Man
This personality archetype according to Carl Jung is that part in all of us that feel like we have so much knowledge to impart to others that we enjoy speaking up or giving advice as if we were Aristotle or some old preacher in a church. Narcissists tend to activate this archetype a lot as they enjoy giving advice even when not asked or sharing knowledge about almost every matter brought up in the table even if it's really not necessary.
As a narcissist with a love for speaking in front of people, I admit that whenever my friends and I talk, I tend to always share experiences or thoughts about the topics they bring up even if I don't really care about them or the matter being discussed. I simply like the fact that I know a lot about everything and I have an audience to know all about it even though they may have already known right from the beginning, and it's obviously the case with my friends.
6.Power, Power, Power, and More Power
Topics about power as in history related to it, philosophical readings, etc. all fascinate me as I obviously love being in control or feeling like I am It because I have power over myself and of course others. Also, I come from a family with highly activated wise old man archetypes with clear intentions of using it to rule and not to simply express their greatness, and I'm pretty sure I identify with that.
Sounds like you have had some unpleasant run-ins with these sorts, lol. I guess we all probably have. Good information. I found this post on Steemit chat postpropotions. Upvoted and following.
Haha thanks!
I have to agree with most points you have presented here. Wooh, you have a great way of observing and analyzing people. This post is very helpful. Thanks for this!
BS Psych skills haha
You are very right about number two. They are fund of themselves.
I love their confidence though.
Nothing sexier than confidence!
they are always full of themselves always want to be known in the society