thank you cyberdemon. while i appreciate the defense and support, I also really wish to not exacerbate this any further. its your call to speak how you will on this, but I am deeply hurt by this and dont wish to make this into something that will divide people.
cope is, or has been til now, someone I've always respected and admired. but from this I get that it might take a bit of work from both sides to understand how to talk to the opposite sex with caring and respect.
from a feminist viewpoint you make some awesome valid points that I am cheering over. I'm so used to guys telling me how wrong I am and talking down to me that its sometimes difficult to recognize and know my own worth.
peace.
Men like this love to gaslight us into thinking we're actually irrational. It's really important to have people that can affirm your stances so that you don't get tripped up.
I'm not out to make this a huge deal, I just want to document bad behavior and this was a cut and clear case. Hopefully all goes well with you, and I'd like to do my best to make sure nothing goes bad in your direction, though we don't run in many of the same circles so I don't see it being much of an issue.
Though, I think that the fear of division is an irrational fear that men like this keep telling us over and over while they are doing just that. I prefer punching back.
see that's the issue with convo between the sexes. i truly believe that men (in general) are unaware of how and when they express suppressed anger. i tend to punch back too, but it never seems to resolve anything. now i just say my piece and try to walk away as gracefully as I can.
Yeah, I feel it. I'm trying to make myself out to be one that does it so others don't have to, hence I get into arguments a lot here :P
Not everyone should be weighed down with this kinda shit, it does get tiring.