Is being emotional a bad thing?
In former times I wrote often about positivity a lot. Using too much brain and soul on a community can be dangerous - however. My message was positivity is required and I outlined some points why I think it is key in life to avoid anger and negativity. I even wrote that it is important to control your emotions - I am still a supporter of the positive thing - I am not sure on the emotions part in general anymore as I am for sure an emotional guy.
Emotions can sound negative - but they are no weakness like harmony and positivity
There are a lot people that dislike when you are emotional and are aiming towards positivity and harmony. Some even call this stupid, weak and more but humans are different. This is the good thing. Everyone needs to decide on their own way of life. Therefore being totally brain controlled, data driven and unemotional is not per se a bad thing. I am not a psychologist so leave this up to experts to tell me if i am good, bad or just rubbish.
It is important you are yourself - do not let anyone manipulate you towards anything you do not want to! I am not planning to let anger dominate me - I have gone through such phases in life as well as on social media - last Friday was such a day with three events that made me very emotional all together. I did regret it quite soon but now think this is good, let your emotions flow - this is also important for your physical health.
Some advise how to control anger in particular - the negative emotional part below - wrote about that earlier.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It can become unhealthy when it flares up all the time or spirals out of control. Chronic, explosive anger can have serious consequences for your health and your state of mind.
There are certain techniques how to get anger under control - everyone also on steemit can learn to keep their temper from hijacking their steemit life.
1) Explore what's behind your anger
Your childhood and education plays a crucial role to identify where anger problems stem from. Past experience include watching family members scream, throw things, hit each other. So traumatic events and also stress can make you more susceptible to anger as well.
2) Be aware anger warning signs and triggers
Usually there are physical signs of warning before you explode. Anger is a normal physical response. It is important to learn about your own personal signs that your temper is starting to boil. Knowing this helps to manage anger before it gets out of control.
3) Learn methods to cool down
Going a bit into detail on this point which is an important one. This can help you to act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control.
- Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs.
- Exercise. A simple walk around the block is a good idea to release pent-up energy. This help to approach a situation with a cooler head.
- Use your senses. Take advantage of the relaxing power of your senses - e.g. listen to music, cook something etc
- Slowly count to ten. Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If this does not help - do it again
4) Give yourself a reality check - ask yourself AFTER you cooled down!
- How imporant is this issue for my life?
- Is it worth to get angry about it?
- Is it worth to ruin the remainder of the day ?
- Is my response appropriate to the situation?
- Is there anything I can do about it?
- Is taking action worth my effort?
Sources: About Life Issues, Helpguide.com, Psychologie Heute, Psychology Today, Pixabay
Today I walked at the park with my dogs, and got into an argument with 2 different people, just because I don't know how to control my emotions.
I was under pressure because KLM made a mistake with my flight booked, and I m supposed to leave tomorrow for the Steemfest. Now it might not even happen.
It's no excuse though, I am eventually gonna learn how to canalize my energy.
Lol what's ironic is that I was going to the park to run and burn some energy
A pity you suffered from the KLM mistake - hope you still make it to Steemfest. Thanks for sharing your inner soul - I can hear you - sometimes arguments simply go when you are in such a situation. Happens to me too often - forcing myself to calm down as well.
I am very emotional, but learned how to control myself in the last years. I can say that I mastered it 100%, but at least better than before. I dont get angry that easily for anything and try to stay calm. I think about the problem and try to find solutions while thinking positive,
Stress management generally works by shifting one's attention off a triggered topic on to something more comfortable. Stress release works by discharging a triggered topic, reducing its power to come back and bite you next time. My last two blog posts deal with selectively triggering -- and discharging -- one's hot topics.