The benefits of vulnerability

in #psychology8 years ago

If you ask someone what is the frequency that is allowed to be vulnerable, it is likely to answer: as little as possible. In fact, to avoid such situations.

We realize the vulnerability as a moment of discomfort, in which we are exposed to each other, fearing that this might hurt us emotionally.

However, if we look in our memory welfare memories with others, there is a high probability that the situations that come to mind are with the people with whom we feel will, next, and why not, vulnerable?

How to remember a time when you have ventured to say his amorous feelings for someone or be able to open up about something that was hurting you?

There may be fear that this memory, but also a relief and even joy after lowering the guard and show vulnerable.

Thus we see that we spend most of the time in protecting the possible judgment of others, the possibility of the sense of someone who is considered especially not be reciprocated.

In short, we are all the time running away from rejection, even without knowing whether it is there or not.

Have you ever stopped to think how much energy it expends?

How many good opportunities may have missed?

How much time can be wasted?

How you create terrible outcomes in your head without even have some evidence on the basis for this?

Allow yourself to live by placing more emotional vulnerabilities may seem a great adventure too but in fact leads us to get closer to our most humanitarian side, and strengthen emotional bonds with others.

We learn to live in a reality of appearances in which we hold; very few are those who know the true and only these, we feel really at ease.

I invite you to reflect how would experience more moments of vulnerability and the risk may be worth the results achieved with this attitude.

Remember when you felt the goose bumps to say something that felt and, as was then himself, regardless of the outcome.