I'm not sure who wrote this, but for the past few days I've been so fucking relieved that someone did. Do you sometimes feel like you're a living mirror? That you reflect the actions of those around you? Only the majority, of course. If you do feel this way, does it also annoy the living hell out of you?
I've tried blaming it on peer pressure, influence (good or bad) and even just unoriginality on my part. Please comment your thoughts down below.
I guess it's just a phase, tomorrow I'll be back to normal. Just having a small existential crisis. Thanks for sharing it with me.
Yup I’ve definitely been known to get in the “paralysis by analysis” rut. Silver lining: it gets easier to overcome with age.
Yup, I feel like this sometimes. And that's usually when I write the best songs. So at least I have that - my little escape route - where I can express myself in a completely different way. Helps keep me sane, I think :)
QUARTERLIFE CRISIS!
just kidding...
I can't say I know exactly how you feel as I have never felt as though I'm am just an after-image of the actions of the people closest to me. If this is how you feel try doing something completely new. Something that isn't inspired by people around you but an interest that is truly desired by you and no one else. Or you can try to do something a little different than you usually do. Instead of running you can try riding a bike, Instead of reading you can try an audiobook or a podcast, instead of making the same old dinner you can try to adopt a child. (don't adopt a child).
Trying to fit into a paradigm that is expected of us can put us into a box. In this box, we feel we have to act a certain way or we might be shunned from society or even those closest to us. Some of us are excellent at fitting into this box, my wife for example. but some of us just can't seem to get it right.
I have realized that this box is going to stay there no matter what we do to it. The expectations of society are not going to go anywhere, but it is our choice to conform to it or not.
I have stepped out of this box and can tell you that it is an extremely liberating thing to do. I have sneaked into a strangers' house without them knowing, I have danced alone for a crowd at an event on stage without permission, I've run down the street in nothing but my underwear. I'm not exactly going as far as satanism and cannibalism, but slightly deviating from what those closest to me expects from me makes me feel like my own person and that I am in control of my own life. This might seem stupid to them, but it does my psyche a world of good.
Yes, I can relate. I don't find it annoying, though. My take on it is: you "mirror" people on a subconscious level in order to be liked, or to show interest in a person. It is a helpful tool, once you are conscious of the fact that you are doing it. For instance, when you meet a new potential friend, you might hold your head the same way that she does, because subconsciously, she will perceive that you are someone who might perhaps be like-minded. I often "mirror" speech patterns to connect with people.
ok ... how about ... i'll go out on a thin limb here and possibly fall off but ... let me ask you a question.
Do you know your own set of rules for life? Do you know why you want to follow your own set of rules?
When you are on a journey, such as life, it is much easier to find the right path when you have chosen a good map. And it is easier to follow the path when you know how to stay on the path because the map includes terrain lines. And because the map includes the terrain markings, you can choose how you prepare for the path.
So, you need to choose rules that act as a map, rules that help you prepare for the path, rules that help you choose left, right, up or down.
Your friends (or the majority) are following some rules of some sort. I suspect the rules change every day. I suspect they benefit some more than others.
I suggest you choose your own rules from sources that don't change with the latest trending social terms.
If I'm completely wrong, my apologies.
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