Are men respecting you enough to give you a viable multi-generational cultural strategy for your (future) offspring? When you actually get into child rearing then we'll have some basis to know if you are succeeding. You might want to read the links I posted else where on this page, but I think you might not like what I have to say. But you might wish to delve into the resources I cited, which include some information from some genius level IQ men such as the "father of open source" Eric Raymond.
If you have some knowledge or insight to offer me, I am listening.