This is a relationship dedicated to all those people out there who manipulate the feelings of others to their own gain, those who take their partners for granted and those who don't understand core relationship values.
It is said that once a person gives you their all and you abuse it, it is not because they were weak or foolish, neither is it because you were smart. It is because you were too stupid to see the truth.
I have seen so many young people become so heartless towards others simply because they have seen the inner demons of those who were supposed to protect them.
The truth is everything in this life revolves around making choices and the wrong ones often hurt us more than the damage we thought we felt.
I will break this problem into two categories; the guys and the ladies. The truth is that this is not isolated to a single sex or gender, anyone and everyone can be a victim. It's time we call a spade what it truly is.
For the guys:
So you feel good when you hit and run, when you manipulate a lady's heart into believing it has found joy when you simply want to hit and run.
The bitter truth is that you can jump from one person to the other, but remember that if karma sets its knock out punch for you, you won't escape it.
Have we ever stopped to wonder how it'll feel like if another guy was treating our sisters the way we are treating some young ladies?
They are flesh and blood like us, I know it is basically in a man's DNA to want everything, but remember that love is a commitment and a decision to remain firm to one person.
Let us not even put a meat in our mouth if we won't eat it. Why ask a lady out when you have no intention of being serious with her? Why ask her out when all you need is just her money or her body? Ever heard of casual sex or friends with benefits?
The truth is that ladies have the ability to endure pain (when they choose to), but here is the thing, learn to dialogue with your woman and understand her "buttons".
A woman can be anything you dream of, be it good or bad, it depends on the treatment offered to her.
No woman deserves to be abused no matter what, never physically, verbally or otherwise abuse her, it is wrong. They are not wonderful, but they are God's gift to mankind. A wise woman will change your life for good because women have the ability to reason logically, even moreso than men.
For the ladies:
The first criteria for choosing a guy should not be his looks, it should be his personality.
I often say that if a guy's character is flawless, check it, he might be hiding so much stuffs from you.
Men are not toys that you mess with anyhow, learn to offer them love, care and respect.
For those who keep multiple boyfriends all in the name of assurance, remember, that could be you they are CHEATING on.
It is not only men that abuse women, some women also abuse men too. If you belong to that case, remember that you could have to settle your own brother getting up or your sister getting beat up. When you raise a hand against someone, you simply say you are not a lady.
Can you say this is what your man wants and have you ever decided to press his buttons too.
Being a woman doesn't mean you are immune from getting to know your man well.
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In general:
Cheating is cheating no matter what form it takes. You might be eyeing one fine dude, you have started laying the ground work for cheating.
No one is exempt from these words, because both guys and the ladies have feelings and those should never be ignored by those they love.
Always be willing to compromise because without compromise, you'll just be a tyrant.
That person you're hurting is not a weak vessel, the person simply trusted you more than you knew.
No matter what happens, when you meet an asshole, don't become an asshole, instead become someone who is different.
The people who hurt you today might look for you tomorrow just to beg you, don't fight for karma, let it fight for you.
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Love is amazing but people mess it up somehow.
Everyone is now being on the safe side
What I believe is that you should be the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with...
Don't mess things up due to your selfishness
The thing about love is this; give out what you expect, if you get it, fine, if you don't get it, keep searching.
We might not get it at first doesn't mean we won't get it at all. Often times, we hurt what could have been the best memories of our lives because we have been hurt by others. We must avoid that.
i love this
thanks
You're welcome
There's some truth here. However. My experiences have shown that sometimes with these emotional cum relationship type issues, there's no pattern to it.
Some women have gone in because of "personality" and still get hurt.
However, in general, you're mostly right
Thank you.
I totally agree with you! Playing around with someone's feelings doesn't make one smart. Both parties need to treated right by the other, and their feelings respected. We need to put an effort into making ourselves better and also making the relationship work
Love is beautiful, I hope we understand that and allow ourselves enjoy all of its beauty (and blessings that come with it), by loving the right way.
Rightly said @ehiboss
Sometimes people are knowingly hurtful or neglectful, that we end up feeling disempowered, disrespected, and stuck.
You keep wanting them to care,
wanting to believe they valued you, that it only meant you were interpreting incorrectly if their actions seemed to suggest otherwise.
And most people stayed in a lot of unhealthy relationships while making excuses for people.
After finding myself in this situation more times than I’d like to count
these days, I am quite black-and-white with relationships. I either trusted you implicitly, assuming you’d never intentionally hurt me, or believed you want to cause me pain and question everything you do.
When in doubt, I step back and ask yourself, “What would I tell a friend if s/he were in my shoes?”
Great message!!