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Over the years, I mean since I started dating I've realized that there are 6 things which tells us that we're with the wrong person. I'm not a relationship expert yet, but I love to share my ideas and tips I know about relationships hence my post today. So if your partner does this 6 things, run as fast as you can:
He replies his phone calls when you both are together with a text message.
If your spouse is serious about you and isn't cheating on you, why would they be uneasy about answering phone calls most especially one from the opposite sex? It only tells that they're doing something absolutely wrong(playing you for a fool). Ignoring or not taking calls in front of your partner but rather reply it with a text should be a fore warning that you're in the wrong relationship.He's open that he doesn't want any form of commitment.
If the person you call your spouse is open that they don't want any form of commitment, it only means they will play you for a fool and leave your heart shattered if you still push for a relationship. If their clear about what they want in the relationship, you should leave before you get hurt because they will always flirt with any available person with or without your presence.Indoor dates.
I know some people like to be indoors and do not always love social gatherings or outings but this shouldn't always happen in your relationship. You boh should have fun outside the comforts of your home, go see a movie together, go dancing together, eat dinner in a nice restaurant together but in situations where you spouse declines on every invitation to go out on a date together, it could only mean one thing, they do not want the public to see the two of you together. This is a sign you should pretend not to see, you must act fast and leave the relationship before your hurt yourself.Always unavailable.
No matter how busy your partner says they're with work and other activities, they should try to be available for you once in a while but in situations where they're never their to give you a hand or help through a difficult predicament, it only entails they have someone else who they give all their time to.
All this are red flags we shouldn't ignore in our relationships. They're signs that could help us not get hurt as long as we act on them immediately we get such observations.
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Okay, interesting points, and I'm sure they all have their place with their proper amount of truth to them, but looking at them individually I could not help being reminded of my relationship with my wife. In some way or another, each one of your points has applied to us, and most of them still do.
Point 1 is a constant thing that happens to her. Since her work requires her to be available 24/7, it is not uncommon that while we are together we are interrupted with a call or a text, which she must answer immediately. Sure, usually this doesn't happen at the most ungodly hours, but tends to occur when we're together. The most annoying part is that cultural norms have her maintain a 'friendly tone' with her co-workers. So although the conversation is entirely work related, it starts out with a minute of "Hiiiii, how have you beeeeen?" I wish I could say I've gotten used to it, but in fact it's still as annoying as ever.
Point 2 on the other hand, applies to me more. After the first year in our relationship I broke up with her, not because there was anything wrong between us, but because I could not take living in her city any longer. One year was already driving me crazy. And being mature, responsible adults, we knew that a long-distance relationship was completely unrealistic. As it turns out, we didn't need to be committed, as we ended up together anyway.
Point 3, once again, is about me, as I hate going out. I'm not agoraphobic (at least I don't think I am) but whenever I'm surrounded by lots of people and noise (as is typical at a night-club or on any public transport) I tend to get really nervous. My hear-beat speeds up, my breathing becomes forced and choppy, my hands clench into fists, and I start grinding my teeth. Of course at that point the chance for any conversation goes out the window, and soon I find myself looking for an escape out of that horrible situation. This doesn't mean that we never go out, but I always prefer the quiet surroundings of the home. As for not wanting to be seen with her, nothing could be further from the truth.
Point 4 goes back to her and her work. Availability is a luxury, but it's not because there's someone else. It's just that being a highly demanded professional, with a certain amount of ambition, you tend to prioritize work before anything else, including your partner. They (in this case me) can either understand and accept this, or look for someone else. But I am super happy with her, in spite of all the frustration of coming second to her work, I never doubt that personally I am first, as she comes first for me.
That is why love matters too. If there is love, you guys can be patiebt enough to get used to realities of life and your partners personality. Relationship in real life is diff from that of movies as there will always be changes and things coming in between. You guys need to love to stick to each other and grow with each other and learn each other. Trust is important too
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