It is a beautiful Saturday morning over here and I am more than excited to see that we are all alive this morning and I know that the great sustainer will continue to sustain us all.
It is another day to help someone and I am really glad that this platform has brought smiles on people's face.
It is time for your show, our show please let's do this once again.
Report From The Previous Episode.
I have had a really busy week and that has made it impossible for me to get through to @fiscie who has been busy as well. I apologize for not being able to give a good feedback, but I will work on it over the weekend.
Tell Us Your Opinion About This.
What do you think about a young man helping his lady to hold her bag in public while they walk down the street, is it romantic to you or is it just a stupid act?
The Gist For Today.
I had the opportunity to meet with a young lady last week, very fair and pretty, we got talking and I got to know some things about her.
I realized that she meet this new guy and she was always around him, it was as if they were in a relationship already while she claimed they were friends.
Personally, I think there is a way you will behave around a young man that will seem as if you are trying to force yourself on him especially if you are meeting him for the first time.
I knew she was in a relationship with another young man and she should not just run around this new guy now because he has money or for whatsoever reason she had.
I tried to get a little bit close to her to correct what I felt what wrong in her attitude, but being close to her made me find out something really serious about her relationship.
This young lady I will like to name Miss pretty, told me that she is in a serious relationship with a man that she loves but she doesn't think she will be able to settle down with him and that is the reason why she is trying to look for other alternatives. I tried to know more because I was interested in the story and she told me that the man she was in a relationship with, is a Muslim while she was a Christian and her mother warned her that she does not want to hear that she is in a relationship with a Muslim and as if that is not enough, the young man is divorced with two kids already but he claimed to love Miss pretty.
She said the man was willing to meet her parents and even start the wedding arrangement immediately but she is scared of even taking him home to meet her Mum.
Although she moves around with some other guy, she feels that she loves the man with kids, I would not be able to tell if it is because of the money or the expensive gifts he gives to her or if there was something else called love.
She is worried about the children as well, she feels they might just be an extra burden when she does not even have her own yet, she asked me to give her an advice on what to do and I promised to get back to her after consulting highly intelligent and experienced individuals here.
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Thanks a lot Sir. I am more than pleased to have you around and I hope to have you around more often.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in a guy carrying a girls bag...
The story of today is complicated. Love is not the only thing a relationship thrives on. Miss pretty is in love with someone who is of the another religion who her mum may not approve of, she is bothered of his children becoming a burden before even getting into the marriage, and she's also looking for alternatives.
In my opinion, all these are enough indications that the relationship has a high possibility of breaking in the nearest future. Especially because of the fact that she may not be very accommodating with the children.
Sixth episode already... The future is bright @oluwatobiloba
Alright, I got that, thanks a lot and the future is bright, a big Amen bro.
I think girls do tend to look for what is not lost..... Many of them do like to walk out of comfort zone..... Why?.
Well, For Every reaction, there is both positive and negative result.
Let her know that.
Do enjoy the rest of the day sis
Thanks a lot for coming around bro, but this your grammar pass me oo, can you break it down in simple steps please, you can send me a personal message if you do not want to sound too plain here.
Hahaha....
Thank God for another wonderful weekend..
As per matter of the day,
Remember, wedding is easy but marriage is the main life long institution
Well done @oluwatobiloba
Thanks bro, I know you always have my back. Thanks a lot for coming around.
My own dictionary tells me that romantic is all it takes to ease stress for somebody forget the aspect of kissing,cuddle and so on which many may term as romantic. Holding the bag of my lady in public is nothing to me but to be sincere to ourself, what is big deal in helping the one you claim to love to help her with the bag or all your definition about love is that inner aspect of it that won't be shown to the world. But for me carrying her bag will not only prove to my lady that I so much love her, I will go to the extent of barking her on the street. that why I called her my lady and my love. If you like call it crazy or whatever you choose it to be. The way I chose to live my or my way of life is quite different from other.
To the lady whose parents said she should not bring Muslim guy as an husband or not to think of marrying a Muslim guy. Am Muslim and am proud to be one and am saying this to the parent especially the mother of that lady that doesn't know what destiny the lady in question had. Moreover the mother itself cannot determine her own destiny why telling the lady not married Muslim. Am putting this blame on the mother that paraventure if the lady married another religion and she is having issues with the marriage the blame should be put on her mother. Why don't you allow her to make choice and decision for her life. That is for the mother if she insist that her daughter must not married Muslim.
To the lady itself, I would like to quote a Bible version for her which says; honour thy parents and elders so that you can live long on the land that him your lord will give to you. You must obey your parents because she knows more than you do, and she may have her motive of telling you not to get married to a Muslim. But I want to tell you today that marriage that had survived and lasted longer till death do them apart have a lot of challenges but when you can't overcome such challenges in your matrimonial home put that blames on your mother. I quote myself again and am telling you this again, if you get married to the Muslim am not telling you that you
won't have issues but probably if you followed your mummy order and something came up and you are unable to solve it I repeat again put the blame on her. I just wish your mother could allow you to choose whom you felt you're compatible and comfortable with, it would had be nice partake from her part, but since she insisted. Do her wish so that your son, daughter can also obey you.
And finally walk up to the man itself and explain everything to him to avoid stupid mistakes at which ladies of nowadays are always making.
@oluwatobiloba keep the good work going the Lord is your strength.
Amen, thank you so much for coming around.
I think the major problem is that the lady still wants to hold on to the Muslim guy with children while she takes little gifts from other people.
@olamisexy, you just did an excellent job here in this reply. This is not biased at all and I like it.
Thanks a lot @mr-aaron, I am glad you came around.
You're welcome ma'am...
You have really put great effort here, well done. If a man helps his wife to carry her bag, i love it. If my husband does it to me I will appreciate him. However, i will also study the environment. If it happens in America or any exposed city , no one cares but if the environment is a local one, filled with jobless individuals, who do nothing but gossip, i wont want to be a topic for their discussion. In that case, i will love my guy to curtail it.
For the Gist of today,
It is a very dicy situation. She may marry the man, and the kids will take her as their mum and peace and unity will return to the home. On the otherhand, she may marry the man, the kids may never be pleased with whatever she does. They may accuse her of taking all their dad's attention. If she is unfortunate not to have kids early enough, the man may maginalize her and stick with his kids. She may be miserable in that house. Besides the man is even a muslim. They shouldnt be unevenly yoked. Marrying a man with kids has lots of problems. Its better to marry a woman with kids instead
Mama, thanks a lot for stopping by, I can feel a tone of an experienced woman here and I love it.
God bless.
About guys helping ladies carry bag in public isnt bad when the lady has 2 bags, they can carry it one by one and its gonna look romantic. But a situation where d lady isnt carrying anything and the guy carries her handbag isnt cute at all.
Alright....
Noted ma'am
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I am so sorry MA, I got a little busy but I will check it now. Thanks a lot
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Keep the fire burning
Thanks deary
There is not wrong with a man helping a lady with her bag
If its otherwise wil people see it as stupid?
Yeah, thanks for the contribution.
There is absolutely nothing wrong in a guy carrying a girls bag...
Bro, you know I love you right? Oya take hug.
Hmmmm.... I'm blushing... Thanks dearie...
Anything done for each other in a relationship, carrying a hand bag inclusive, is done out of consciousness and sanity. Therefore I suppose it is part of the way they chose to love themselves. As for Miss Pretty, 'fly wey no dey hear word naim dey follow dead body enta grave'. A man or woman you know you cannot present wherever, what are you doing with him?.
My advice is; come out of all those relationships, give yourself a little break and think properly before going into any relationship. You should know what you want and what is acceptable and go for it.
I love you Ma, thanks for stopping by. Your timely and matured contribution is greatly appreciated.
Why shouldn't he hold my heavy bag for me? Na play I come for? He has to even carry me on his shoulders seff...
Miss Pretty, I believe every individual holds the solution to their problems.
Firstly, are you truly a Christian? If you are, you would know that you should be converting that man into your religion, if you can then he is right for you. That is our Faith!
Secondly, his kids would be extra burden to you, then you're not even the right one for him.
If you loved him truly as you claimed, you would love his children and grow fond of them.
I know the concept of religion and marriage is a segregational aspect of Multi lingual and multi cultural societies. So the question is are you ready to take the risk of going against your parents for a man you're not comfortable around his children and his religion? The risk is yours to bear.
Lol @carry you on his shoulders.
Thanks a lot Sis, your presence really means a lot to me.
Hmnn... Anty, carry you on his shoulder? I hope you're not too big lol...
@illuminatus 💋 💋 come and take it oo..
It's not bad, in fact I find it so romantic.
For me,if u love me,and we understand each other, carrying my bag wouldn't be a big deal,neither does it make you less of a man.
It's beautiful.
And it doesn't reduce the respect i have for you.
@oluwatobiloba.
Yeah....
Thanks a lot for the contribution sister.
You're welcome sis
I asked hubby about carrying a bag for a lady and he says it's no big deal at all. I think it's all about the man's self confidence and composure. My husband is absolutely comfortable in his own skin and can carry any lady's bag. On the other hand, I have friends who'll never carry a lady's bag because they feel it would reflect badly on their image.
Miss Pretty needs to be decisive. What does she want exactly? Does she want to obey her parents or follow her heart? What needs to be done is totally dependent on her choices.
I love the way you love these people @oluwatobiloba. I doubt I'll be able to exercise the kind of patience you exercise with them. Your kind is rare!
Mama, I know you will always do better. I am quietly following the steps of great women like you and I hope to become someone big someday.
I really can't comprehend why people would involve in a relationship, where there's no future in it. He's a Muslim, he has kids... You knew about this, but went to exploit and now you want to exploit the new one. Hello dear, choose who you want to be with, and choose the best. Be with someone you can confidently take to your parents. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured.
For the handbag, if I'm tired or I've got extra, I would let him, but if not, I'd carry my bag. If a guy does it, he ain't stupid.
You're doing beautifully well, taking time to solve people's problems via the blockchain. Happy Sunday ma'am.
@vheobong, @doris-adioha, would you allow him carry your handbag? @one-person would you carry her handbag?
Why not? No big deal, carry my bag and I'll carry your hand
Lol, this really got me laughing.
See why i hate religion, he's muslim, I'm christian blah blah blah, does it make him less human?
Tueh....
To more delicate issues on ground...
Have you been around his kids, do they like you, would they want you around, would they accept your children as their siblings?
Those are more pressing issues but since your mom doesn't want you to marry a muslim, look for a Christian brother and marry, stop wasting oga Muslim's time.
One day our eyes would be open to the reality that more than bring us together, religion is dividing us.
Tueh once again
Keep tuehing 😕
Peeps need to be compatible to some extent when considering marriage to avoid clashes.
Oya no vex oo aunty @vheobong.
Don't worry we are all one.
You too take kiss💋💋
OMG, I love the way you sounded so blunt here, babe you no care oo and I love you, Oya take kiss💋💋
Hahahaha, I love you too and plenty kisses to you 😘😘😘😘😘😘
I don't think there is anything wrong for a man to help his wife with the bag. In fact, some days he can just help her not just for helping sake. And for other days, he can help her because the woman has so many other things to carry.
For the other part, I've read a lot of comments and my own might not be different from theirs so I won't write bout it...
Stay blessed
Thanks a lot brother, stay blessed too.
I don't think there is anything bad if a guy help a lady to hold bag in public...... So far a lady can carry bag for a guy then I believe it should be vice visa......
And has for this week gist..... Hummmm pls tell the lady to be careful and think very well...... Look before she leap...... What she doesn't want she shouldn't go for it so it won't lead to this again....... God will help her.....
Keep shining @oluwatobiloba
Thanks a lot sister. 😍