Before marriage many may take time to find the right one, in fact of all most troubling questions this question of the right one is on almost every lip and heart of most individuals who are searching.
The question of a right partner has been the question of all ages and no matter how a particular generation may try to dodge, the question of the right partner it however has a evolving history and the question has it's diverse answers from the different generations.
So I'm also going to lend my voice to the evolving question and try and answer this question.
Before I proceed further I decided to also seek the opinion of friends to also give their views so we can have double angle we can both answer this question from.
When I asked a girl friend this question (is there a right partner?) this morning, I was already smiling because I perceived a straight answer was almost impossible and guess what her reply was.
"The question is subjective."
I smiled waiting for her to hit the points.
She continued.
"This is what I mean the answer can be different for everyone."
"Who seems to be amazing for you is that some partner will be a turn off another person, so it is largely dependent on what every individual wants for himself or herself."
Let's read another person's answer of the same question.
I asked another the same question her reply was.
"She said there never could be a right partner for anyone, and the thought of a right partner is what throws many off balance."
She continued...
"People who want Mr right as their partners most times always may end up settling down with some of the worst partners."
So let's try to answer the question from my end.
The joy of having a right partner cannot be overemphasized I can't wish my enemies to live with a wrong partner all their lives.
You can even imagine how to live with the wrong partner after saying I do.
Is there a right one?
Yes, there is a right one, we sometimes get confused because of the testimonies of some people who are married and because of the challenges of their marriages.
Although the recent high level of divorce had proved that there can be wrong partners.*
If there are wrong partners, it means there are also right partners.
Furthermore, no one ever wants to settle down with a wrong partner in life it makes life miserable.
So let's get your opinion is there a right partner?
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Thanks for reading through...
Am your original @prettyjules158.
If you dont find the right person,be one for someone..I think everyone must try to be the right person for someone..by so doing we all become right people for each other..my thoughts though @prettyjules158
Thanks my friend I do appreciate your comment.
I also believe that there is a right partner, however the definition of "right" rests on the individual. As for me, the right partner is someone I understand and who understands (and also seek to understand) me. Great piece!
Thanks you very much, your comment has made my day. Its golden.
Yeah? You're welcome!
There is no right or wrong partner, there is only right and wrong partnership. The fact that bad things happen while being with someone does not mean that the person is the wrong for you, it doesnt mean the person is right either, how much do you want the person to be right for you? Or how much are you willing to be right for your partner.
By the way. The Lady in the picture was my bestfriend about 15years ago
Oh your friend's pix is on pixabay.@mistakili hmmm your answer is in between, no right no wrong then what exist? Thanks for your comment my friend.
Before one will dream of finding Mr right?
He/she should answer this question: Am i perfect? If you sincere within you...it will enable you to search for a partner....
What is require in marriage is your ability to understand your partner....don't try to be the winner in every argument...sometimes allow your partner to have his way, for peace to reign...
To be sincere with you...there is no perfect marriage any where....All we need to do is to invite the head of marriage in your home....and watch your marriage become heaven on earth
I learnt something, Thanks for your comment dear.
The answer is truly subjective
Lets see it this way from my perception
Our fingers are filled with spaces which are perfectly fitted with the other fingers.
No right or perfect one exists. We only agree to disagree and perfect our imperfections to make an ideal or true relationship
Thanks for your reply mike.🤔
Hey Jules, nice article, but I will disagree with you a bit on it. In life, I don't believe there's ever a right partner.
It is this belief that makes a lot of people stay single. They are searching for something elusive; something that only exists in nollywood.
In relationships as well as marriage, you take an imperfect person, one that is most compatible with you though and try to live happily. And this is why most people preach tolerance and acceptance in relationships because these qualities always come in handy.
Your partner may be a cheater and still be the right one, but not a perfect one.🤔🤔
This makes it subjective.😁
Thanks for your comment mam.@paigegirl I understand your point of view, I mean a right partner and not a perfect partner, hmmmmmmm.
Oh I get you now. Nice article and you are welcome.
😘😘😘
Hence we believe that a rib was taken out of own to create a woman, therefore i also believe there is a right one. We must look inwardly when looking for the right one, than looking outwardly.
For me when or before getting married one has to seek the face of the lord, that way he can direct your own flesh of flesh, rib of rib and so on.
We do not just jump into it because we want to be addressed as Mr & Mrs.
I believe there is a right partner, I will define a right partner to be someone you are compatible with, someone who spark something in you that you forgot was there, someone who understands you, accept you and love you for who you are, always wants you to be your best.
Buen post, este es un tema bastante complejo, ya que la convivencia es algo que no todos saben dar, muchas personas son, o somos complicadas y se torna algo difícil el convivir y compartir con otro, hay parejas que duran años juntas y nunca se separaron por nada, ¿ existirá el matrimonio perfecto? eso debemos buscarlo dentro de nosotros mismos.
Marriage is a combination of two incomplete people from different religious, educational, political, financial background and the likes. No one is perfect, so I dnt think there can be a perfect partner. We all need to ask God to choose rightly for us. Only God knows who will be perfect for us. Though there's still room for working it out.
A perfect partner is different from right partner my dear.
I understand no one is born perfect but we can work towards perfection in our relationship.
Thanks for your comment.
Hmmmmm yea sure. Thanks sis.. Always nice reading from you
I agree to you three's perspectives
To me, humans are not created equally...
Therefore, there can't be a perfect creature... But of course there are "right" partners; "Mr right" for female and "miss right" for male. "right"based on individual taste. But based on "virtues", the "right" might be lacking/lagging.
Searching for "mr/miss right" most eventually leads to the wrong choice.
So like the second perspective stated, I think virtues should instead be searched for.
Even those in "seem perfect" relationships too have their own challenges... They are able to sustain and maintain their togetherness based on the fact that; right from onset, they have individually concluded to learn to "do with" their respective weak points.
So, there would always be "mr/miss right" if mr/miss are in quest of "miss/mr virtuous" and not solely focusing on "right" based on their tastes
I know am inexperienced, due to my little experience about relationships.
Anyone that suggest to me to do less, is either not a real friend, or very confused!
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Love means emotional madness, love
mean something bad. The idea is just imagination
Sinking, love means self seen in others
Shadow.
@Mcsamm i am also agree with you
Excelente post gracias por compartir, que bello es encontrar una pareja que entienda y quiera.
The idea of a right partner is something that comes in different perspectives. You blend together to become right for each other, that's what I know. No perfect man/woman. So we all strive to be right for someone and to have someone who's right for us too.
Yes, u are very correct about the right partner, there is a right partner. If u are looking at ur partner there are qualities u should be looking at like
I will love to hold from there now cose i am also writing on Marriage.
Thanks a lot for this topic both of us is writing on @prettyjules158
The right partners are out there, but as humans, we unconsciously seek perfection in others, forgetting about our perfect imperfections. Partners should learn to create room for mistakes and forgive easily. Let love rule.
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STOPThere is a right and wrong partner.. If a single guy does not take his/her time to search or wait for de right one/time, and ends up settling down with someone whom they were not destined to be. That is a wrong choice because what is not yours is not yours and what is yours is difinitely yours. The house wud be on fire and such relationship won't last
No one is perfect in terms of relationship,wd just have to manage each other.
I don't think there is a right one but there are just some people that is right for a particular person. Mr A and Miss A maybe right for each that doesn't means Miss A and Mr B won't be right for each other.
What matters most is to be with someone that understands you and you both are compatible.
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