I can agree with anti monogamy doesn't = cheating.
I also think if you believe in anti-monogamy that you cant believe that cheating is a real thing because it would also be a social construct if monogamy is a social construct. So there for the only wrong doing would be the guilt or the lies that come from trying to make monogamy work by people that don't believe in it.
so I don't think someone can be anti-monogamy and anti-cheating at the same time. must choose one reality not 2 that oppose each other.
Cheating is being dishonest with your partner. Social construct or not, most can agree it's wrong to be dishonest to a romantic partner. Even monogamous people who have been cheated on often report that the sex itself isn't what bothered them, it was the lies and deceit.
So when you're anti-monogomy and anti-cheating you're really anti-monogomy and anti-dishonesty. Which I would argue is the feelings of most polyamorous people. In fact, extreme honesty is very important for it to work! Furthermore, polyamorous people make different agreements and can still cheat by breaking those agreements. For instance, hypothetically a couple could agree to an open relationship with the requirement that condoms always be used with other partners. If one partner then has unprotected sex they have cheated, because they broke the terms of their agreement.
Not necessarily. Sometimes not saying something is the best for your partner, thus is being honest with yourself. You argue against monogamy in favor of freedom, yet then you try to argue that I have to be dishonest with myself to lock myself into a jail having to tell another person everything I am doing and thinking. Hopefully you see the logical inconsistency in your stance. It depends on your perspective and goals. For example, you might wish for your wife to remain happy and productive rearing her (your) kids and be free of stress. You might also be out there fulfilling your evolutionary strategy at the same time impregnating some other females. It depends. But can you be sure you can accomplish it. Each person will have to weigh their options and realistic abilities.
What concerns me is a blog trying to shame everyone into being a swinger. Not everyone needs to have the same strategy and perspective in life.
It seems a non-sequitor promulgated here is that is okay to fall into a life of shared jail of addictive decadence for as long as both partners tell each other everything and convert both of themselves into addicts together. I don't personally find that to be optimum solution to anything. But to each his own.