It is with a great de-stress I air my view on the above issue. It is now a common trend in the society and what baffles me is the fact that people are cool with it.
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From a stand point of my origin as an African, it is culture for the man to go all out for his woman, it is his responsibility to take care of her and he must show willingness to do so. The man is the head of the family, understanding his part as the head of the family, he must show readiness by taking the bold step of asking the maiden hand in marriage.
In today's world, it is a complete turn table, women feel they can also take steps of proposing to the guy, of which I find disturbing. When a woman asks for a guy hand in marriage, she is indirectly saying a thousand different things at the same time. I feel it is a show of desperation and impatient. No matter how long the relationship must have lasted, she should never go on her knees if she wants a "man" in the marriage(proposing makes the woman the man in the marriage, because she was bold enough to recognise what she want, though it sounds good but this is totally wrong)
There are things I feel should be considered before she does.
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FINANCIAL RESOURCE
In Nigeria, my country, the responsibility of a bride price, marriage expenses, and many more, are placed on the shoulder of the guys. It is expected for a guy to provide funds to help keep the family doing. When a lady proposes, I feel she should be ready to take up a higher percentage of this burden. The financial stability of the family must not be of optimum priority.
READINESS
Marriage is not a day's journey, it is the of a life time and many ain't willing to go that path. It is one that requires commitment and adjustment, this adjustment goes beyond the physical and are mental and psychological. I feel ones readiness for marriage should be considered before proposing.
Many female folks out of frustration and lack of sensitivity, ignore hand writing on the walls, indicating the unwillingness to settle down but still push their luck and I find it unreasonable.
I am of the opinion that if a lady wants to settle she should sit her "man" down and discuss about it. This I'll help them identify where they are headed and what to expect. I believe discussing about it is far better then taking the step( though this still sounds weird and I can easily sense desperation but it is far better than proposing.
below is a video a girl proposing to a guy(an it definitely went south)
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FLYZKpirNmw
DISCLAIMER: Just my opinion
I will appreciate your comments and resteem, so as to get others in on this matter.
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