Our relationships are a mirror. Insights about what we want and value come up sometimes in unexpected ways.
When a relationship that seems perfectly suited ends, a potentially exciting partnership with great prospects of long lasting commitment… Except for the fact that both parties feel that expectations aren’t met.
I found myself in deep thought trying to work out if anything could be done to work through conflict and reach a state of trust and acceptance… It was really useful to reverse rolls and measure my own words and actions towards the very same things I was pointing at in the other person… I also did the same with what this person was saying about my behaviour… An epiphany hit: It was so obvious that we were expressing our needs and demands in the very sentiments we are lacking ourselves! Our needs and demands from others reflect our downfalls.
I believe it similarly happens with our relationship with the world as a whole. It seems that we see lack in aspects we need to act upon and enrich in our lives. We seem to crave connection when we are failing to get involved.. To dim as closed minded when our minds aren’t open.. To feel unheard when we are not listening.. To seek validation when we don’t believe in ourselves and to demand love when we are struggling to feel it…
Being aware of the dynamics between ourselves and others, is what helps us grow and either strengthen connection or part ways with people… And if we are prepared to look inwards and offer exactly what we want to receive from others, the chances are that we’ll be rewarded with a life of true bonds, Inspiration, community, soul family!
But never forget that having high standards in the way others treat us is how we express Self love. Our boundaries must guide the path to creating the healthy environment we need to thrive… So keep moving forward with a humble stepping into learning how to love more and better… Specially when we want to feel fully embraced.
Quote of the day: Take responsibility for your relationships.. And if you love yourself, no one will ever disappoint you.. <3
Very true. We tend to see flaws in others when really the flaws are within ourselves. We are reflecting what we want to be and instead of looking within, we blame someone else. I love the bit about high standards and boundaries as well. It IS a form of self-love