In order to have a healthy balanced loving relationship, here are a few tips that may help
- Don’t get too comfortable.
A lot of times as women, we get comfortable after being with our loved one for quite some time. During this time we may gain weight, not do our hair every day, walk around in rollers, or stay in our pajamas all day, We get so comfortable that the thought of him leaving never crosses our mind. We must not forget what attracted our men to us; we still need to remind him just why he chose you. They still need to be impressed. Remember when you first met him? You wouldn’t be caught dead in that ratted bath robe or holy socks! Let’s get back to those days! I am not saying to dress up every day, but give him something to want to look at every morning, noon and night. Just because we had a couple of kids don’t mean we have to look like it, this will help us as well. This will remind us, who we are, and that we still matter not just as a wife or mother. Men, this is for you as well! We use to love seeing you dress up and take us out, every once in awhile lose the jogging pants and basketball shorts, we need impressing too! - Date Night.
Pick a night that works for both of you. Make sure you have a responsible and reliable babysitter (if you have children). Go out for a couple of hours and enjoy being with each other. It is important you take time and give the attention you and your mate need and deserve. How many times a month you go out is up to you, but I would not make it less than two nights a month. This gives each other something to look forward to and its really exciting planning! - Communication.
A lot of times we expect our mate to know what is on our minds. It is wrong for anyone to assume the other know how to read minds. If something is going on you do not like, you need to express your concerns in a compassionate matter. There is nothing better than an understanding between two. A lot of time just listening to the other is all we need to do. But we actually need to listen and never ignore. Communication after an argument is important too. The next day one of you may apologize, but the reason you are apologizing is important. Being aware of the problem and addressing it, is the key to communication and this will work for any relationship.
Communication is so detrimental to any relationship. It is the only way to discover our likes and dislikes. - Surprises! Keep the spice in the relationship with little surprises! Such as a surprise lunch at work, or little notes found somewhere of your love and motivation quotes. Make a playlist of every song that reminds you of him/her. These little thoughtful surprises will forever keep you embedded in his heart and mind.
- Spice up you Sex Life!
Learn and try different sex positions or have sex in another room! Don’t keep the same routine, try something you and your partner are comfortable with, do not let boredom creep into the bedroom! - Get along with Mama!
Yes I said it. Nothing is more strained on a relationship is when your partner does not get along with your mother or another family member. Can you imagine how your partner must feel being in the middle of two loved ones, feuding? Try to communicate and set boundaries for difficult family members. Always communicate your feelings, do not suppress, you do not want any build up, because that will lead to an emotional exploding either for you or the family member. And we do not want that. - The Golden Rule: Treat others how you want to be treated. If you want to be treated with love and respect, you have to show love and respect. Don’t be one way and expect your partner to be another.
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