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One of my passions is reading ebooks and books. My collection is pretty much lately after downloading ebooks from various sites.
Some of my ebooks are not satisfactory, but some are interesting. So, I took the initiative to finish one of David J. Lieberman's books.
David J. Lieberman, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized leader in the field of human behavior and interpersonal relationships. He is the creator of NeuroDynamic Analysis for short-term therapy.
Here is my review of Get Anyone to Do Anything book for you guys.
Book Info:
- Title : Get Anyone to Do Anything
- Author : David J. Lieberman Ph.D.
- Genre : Psychology
- Published : May 11th 2001 by St. Martin's Griffin (first published May 1st 2000)
- Pages : 242 (Ebook Version) 208 (Printable Version)
ARE YOU TIRED being used? Do you sometimes feel unheard, disrespected and not getting the proper cooperation?
Here you enter the world where psychology comes into power and detects lies, changes one's mind or controls situations with formulas that easily follow a series of simple techniques and tactics.
In the beginning, the book discussed how to make life easier. So everyone loves, loves, or just thinks you're great. There are nine laws and psychological phenomena that influence, define and even change our view of a person so that you can make anyone like you.
Here are the first nine laws:
- The law of association
- Often appearing
- Love each other
- Equation
- How to attract someone's sympathy
- Adjust oneself
- Let him help
- I am just an ordinary person
- A positive attitude
Also discussed a law that is making people interested. If you are liked by others, it will unconsciously assume you are attractive. We can look attractive to others in an easy way. Even if your physical and your body are not attractive.
There is also a chapter that discusses the 4 basic mistakes so you get away with people you like and are approached by people you do not like. It was not a coincidence. But you are unconsciously doing things you should not do.
There are also psychological tricks that are described on how to negotiate. The rules are simple, ask as high as the stars and you will get as tall as the moon. If you want to raise your self-esteem or something you have, then you have to put up the right image. Put the price as high as possible so that others take you seriously.
There is also a simple trick to become a more calm and confident person in all situations. All dismantled with scientific explanations of how our bodies work. It was not a big deal to stay calm in difficult situations.
Or maybe you've been annoyed at being fooled and used? Let's face the fact that in this world there are people who do everything to fulfill their life purpose.
First, there will be a way that you will know if your friend is a true friend or they are of no use to you at all. There are six tests to run. And if they do not pass, they are not your friends.
Followed by conundrum technique to know the lie of a person. When you are in doubt with someone's words and want to know if he is lying or not, then you can use this technique all the time. Like a lie detection tool.
Also discussed seven tactics manipulator who wants to take advantage of you. It's a deadly technique. So, knowing it will keep you from being manipulated by bad guys.
There is also a simple trick to know that the opponent is just bluffing. It appears in contrast to its original condition. You can use it for fun just like playing poker and practicing this ability.
Then a scenario technique in which you can perform oral psychological tests to know the thoughts of others. The technique is simple enough, and if the person feels uncomfortable or guilty, then he is the person you think.
There are also techniques that force others to say what they think. You can manipulate this using simple psychological techniques. Do not worry; it's all accompanied by simple examples.
In the chapter 3 is a chapter to keep the situation under control and anyone do anything. The success of life often depends on our ability to influence the attitudes, beliefs, and views of others. We are not talking about success through manipulating, but using certain psychological strategies.
The first is a psychological explanation for people to act quickly in certain situations. There are six simple tips that are easy to understand.
Then in chapter 14 will be explained to anyone following your suggestion. Imagine your great ideas being heard by others, even those who ask for your advice will follow what you say. The three main factors are emotions, strategies, and consequences.
Followed by chapters that get everyone to keep their promises. Are you bored when people do not keep their promises? Then there is a strategy that will help you to do it.
There is also a technique facing stubborn people. This strategy can make you change one's thinking without significant obstacles. Next, there is a chapter on getting everyone to grant your request (To work well together). Would not it be nice if we could ask anyone for help in any situation? There will be simple tactics that merge the early chapters.
In chapter 18, disassembled leadership secrets. Let everyone follow you. Leadership is not art; it is science. You will learn to be a charismatic, influential, and coveted leader. Three key factors must be understood and applied, namely humility, simplicity, and dignity.
It is also necessary to make others understand something. As commonly used words: If you can not explain something to a 12-year-old child, then you have not understood it. In this section, we will be guided so that anyone understands anything.
There are two important factors. First, before explaining something, make sure others understand the context or the big picture. And secondly, several studies have found that expectations are closely related to one's ability to understand something. So, before explaining your plan or explaining all the intricacies, explain your problem and your expectations. Then, affect the minds of others that what you want to do is something easy and straightforward. And he will be able to do his job.
You can also get what you want when others want something else. Because history is full of the idea of people who can shape the future. But your problem may not be that big. For example what if you want sushi while your friends want Italian food? No problem. Even if you lose followers and votes, you can change it.
The next technique is how to get a group together. You can resolve the dispute quickly. Can be applied in friendship or family relationships.
There is also a discussion on how to win the competition regarding love, work, and games. There's a ridiculous story about two men camping in the woods. One day, one of them ran into a ferocious lion. The other man bent over, took the jogging boots from his rucksack and hurriedly took off his boots, "What are you doing?" Cried his friend. "You can not beat the speed of the lion run." Quietly, the man replied, "I do not have to beat the speed of the lion run, but I have to beat your running speed."
There are two distinct strategic areas to be considered to win the competition:
- Yourself : The secret of being a powerful psychological fighter.
- Psychology : Use your psychology to win the competition.
Another part that is not less interesting is the way a person gambles and how he lives life is the same. Will be explained the biggest mistake most often done. Knowing it, you will avoid unnecessary mistakes to win any game.
Then Chapter 5: For Life to Be Easier How to Quickly Deal with Difficult, Irritating and Frustrating Situations, and How to Achieve a Profitable Position, Every Time!
There are techniques for getting people to call you right away. Take advantage of curiosity and excitement on messages you provide. And he'll pick up the phone to call you.
Another technique that is not less good is the way that everyone forgives the mistakes you have done. Forgive YOU have made a mistake, feel guilty and promise not to repeat it. If all that can normalize things, it's amazing. However, we know that sometimes it takes more than just saying "I'm sorry" to make things go back to normal. We'll see how psychology can help you get sorry, as soon as possible.
Then there is the way to deliver bad news. In our life, we sometimes have to accept a slap in the form of bitter realities. When you are a bad news carrier, this strategy can be very helpful to you. By changing the way, you convey information. You can dramatically change the way a person responds to any situation.
When a person is upset about an event in his life, it is caused by one or a combination of his three cognitive beliefs: (1) he feels that such a situation is permanent; (2) he feels that the event is very important. That is, the event is more important than the actual reality; And (3) he feels that the event has far-reaching impact, that it will engulf and affect other spheres of life.
By deliberately downplaying these three factors you can change a person's attitude quickly and make his feelings more positive.
Next, there is a discussion about taking back what other people borrowed. MANY people who lend you something be it money, chainsaws or anything but they feel bad when they have to ask them back. Of course, it's not your duty to request it back, but the person you borrowed is supposed to return without you having to ask. But, when he does not return it, here's a quick and easy way to get yours back.
There are only three techniques in this section. And because of its simplicity, I think everyone will be able to master it perfectly.
Or do you often get depressed and feel bad to say yes to other people's requests? Then there is an easy way to say no without guilt.
Similarly, if you want to be good friends with people who are annoying and offensive. Imagine if you could conquer anyone to become your friend.
There are four things may cause people to hurt you:
- The person thinks you do not like it
- He feels threatened by you
- He likes to act offensive to anyone
- You gave him a reason not to like you
In fact, this discussion is related to the previous chapters, only this time more details included. You can connect with anyone if the person is comfortable with you. As Dale Carnagie says, be interested in others, then you can get them to like you faster than you try to get their attention every day.
Also, there is a discussion about stopping the rumor before your reputation falls. Would you like to defend yourself without being defensive? With psychological techniques, you can do it before you fall. Do not argue rumors because people will be more convinced of the truth. Instead, spread the rumor even more so that people no longer trust the truth. The choice is only black and white. If you do, the auto rumor will sink by itself.
Be forwarded by quickly stopping somebody's curse. Very effective to control your anger. Because if you get angry, then you've lost. After all, the person is in trouble, not you. So, there's no point in getting upset over issues that do not lie with you.
There are also tricks to get anyone open to you. Is not it annoying to ask questions and be answered vaguely? You can find information that looks vague and obscure into something obvious by applying psychological techniques.
Or have you ever faced someone who constantly complains? You can stop it and end the boring conversation. First, listen to complain. Then awaken his ego by repeating his words as if you were watching him. And finish with the question what you can do for him.
Then how to muffle jealousy for your partner. MOST OF OUR SECOND believes that people who are easily jealous are those who like to be inferior. However, if a person is confident and feels valuable, he is not easily worried about losing his partner. However, the belief that connects jealousy with one's feelings is not entirely true. The truth is that people tend to feel jealous only in areas that are relevant to their self-esteem.
But you can relieve jealousy by saying the things that worry about it. Do not say you love him and part of it. Rather give a good reason as soon as you know the source of jealousy. It's just a matter of self-esteem. Identify and complete.
SUGGESTIONS ARE something you ask when you know the answer, but you do not want it. It is also said that we ask advice only to strengthen our views. So if you want to find any advice, open your mind. Convincing and good advice from someone who can, you believe, is very valuable. The problem is, we do not always seek good advice the right way.
The reason we often get bad advice is that it is tough to find people who are always in our best interests, who are not jealous of us in any way and who do not consider themselves to know what is best for you.
There is also a trick IF YOU WANT to criticize someone, but you worry that your actions may hurt, ego, embarrass or offend him, then use this psychological strategy so that your criticism does not lead anyone's, heart.
Towards the end of the book, techniques are shown to let anyone reveal their secrets to you and acknowledge anything. You can persuade someone to tell and express what you want to know. The ability to gain one's trust can be mastered by only following a psychological strategy.
Chapter 38, on how to answer stupid or awkward questions. So that anyone will retreat and you win every debate. SKILLS OF DEFENSE Verbally is an invaluable asset. We are often caught in a coachman's discussion and hooked to answer stupid questions. There have been many writings addressing such dialogues, but the opposition this book poses to most traditional suggestions is that they require you to create an anxious, logical and meaningful conversation with that person.
Then there is a way for your child to do well and correctly. There are two essential elements in creating cooperation with kids as well as with adults, which gives him a sense of authority and uses arguments based on emotion. But you have to keep limiting, so the child does not do as she likes.
And in the last chapter, there are techniques for escape from physical and sexual violence. It is an ingenious way of life for men and women. FROM ALL TACTICS in this book, it is this tactic that might save not only your mental health and self-respect,
But also your life.
That's the content of the book so that anyone will do anything for you. To complete the book review, I also gave an assessment of the advantages and disadvantages in this book below.
The first point certainly lies in the bibliography. This book is based on the results of research on psychology. So, almost certainly if we can read the situation appropriately and apply the right techniques, then the results will be as we expect. Evidence of research will never lie.
Second, the style of writing this book is so simple that it is easy to read and understand. Regardless of its simplicity, its contents are weighty and qualified. Sometimes simple things are often seen as complicated, so we are lazy to learn them. This book is perfect for the layman, especially for those who do not have good relationships with others.
And lastly, this is not the only book by David J. Lieberman. I still have some more books to read. And hopefully, they complement each other to make life easier.
If there is a shortage of course because of the one topic is still related to one another. To be able to understand well, it is necessary to re-read each time Lieberman mentions certain techniques that have been taught in the previous chapters. So when I read this book, I often jump back to the original pages to get a complete understanding. Even I was forced to repeat certain chapters to memorize the contents as if I were a schoolboy who would face the test.
And lastly, too many typos in the book. Although trivial, it feels very disturbing reading with pleasure. If only more careful in typing this book, of course, the quality will be better again.
Overall I'm giving 80/100 for this Book Rating.
Thank you for your time reading my review. I hope you enjoy reading it.
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Source: https://shiq4.wordpress.com/2017/04/29/review-buku-david-leiberman/
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