I love so much about this post and as you found yourself with @dantheman, I also fell in to a tift with a user (probably the same one actually) and didn't realize quite how busy you were for my own little problems.
"Don't bug people who have no time (I used to bug @dantheman all the time when I had a vicious troll, but I learned my lesson. I don't bug him anymore as he has zero time for me. He probably doesn't even have time for himself anymore. I learned, it was hard, though, since I respect Dan almost to a degree I'm uncomfortable with. I think he's been a good teacher for me....)"
I have taken this advice and started to try to run with more of my own ideas and giving some great users the ability to contribute if they are able to instead of depending only on them.
@r4fken has made an incredible error in judgement and will likely see his reputation tarnished and his advise left unfollowed. Hopefully he will learn his lesson and come back to be a great piece of this community. The transparency of the blockchain allowed him to find the user faking as @moonflower. He could have simply been rewarded for warning others, but didn't stop and ruined it all.
Also the transparency allowed a user who is a notorious spammer to out me as a #secret-writer. It's a good thing I was thinking about doing this myself, as steemit has given me the courage to be myself and not care about what others think about me when it comes to what I have gone through in my life. But that being said, someone in a similar position could have been horrified to have themselves revealed as the writer of a deeply personal story.
It comes down to this for me "Be Honest, Creative, Kind & Help Others"
Success will follow if you do those things.
(And I hope you have that horse in the first picture in your posession. It is absolutely fabulous!)
One of the main goals of the secret writer is to give confidence to people to expose their truths after they experience what it is like to get anonymous comments. Once that phase is over, the next one is on: to write honestly, from the gut, and to not care about how you are received. As the trolls and bots now have their negative reputations to grapple with, that leaves space for people to be authentic again. Abuse is terrible, and what people do not understand is that you can disagree with others, just don't shove them down the shithole while you're disagreeing! There's a fragile ego on the other side of the computer screen.
Yes you are absolutely instrumental in my success and growth here and I am trying to pay it forward to others, because I have the time to do so, while you have hundreds of ideas and projects going nonstop. Blessings to you @stellabelle