RE: "The Hunters And Gatherers Issue" - An Open Letter To My Future Ex Affair

[fredrikaa]

Now this is the type of articles I love to read! Happy to have come across you. :)

It's an interesting time we live in, where we can choose between:

1 Educating ourselves out of our primal instincts, recognising them for what they are, and distinguishing them from the principles and value that our reason wants us to pursue.

or

2 Recognise that we live in a time where we are free to "trigger" these desires that make us happy at will. Understanding that whether we like it or not, we carry this evolutionary baggage and may as well choose to use it for the pleasures it may provide during our limited lives.

I doubt there's any objective right or wrong here, and that different people place different weight on the importance of following the values and principles they believe in. For me, this has always been fairly easy though. I've used my reason to establish the principles and values I cherish and know that I obtain far higher aggregated well-being, and fewer feelings of doubt and regret, long term when I live by them, compared to any short term pleasures disobeying them might grant.

Thank you for the post. Found a new follower in me :)

Comments

[surfermarly]

You are absolutely right @fredrikaa, there is no right or wrong. Mostly, when we're talking about social bonds, relationships and interperonal "rules" it's complicated to find one path for all of us.

I've used my reason to establish the principles and values I cherish and know that I obtain far higher aggregated well-being, and fewer feelings of doubt and regret, long term when I live by them, compared to any short term pleasures disobeying them might grant.

Yes. In the end it's a personal decision in favor of long term contentment. It's usually hard to achieve real pleasure in constantly breaking the rules we established by ourselves.

I was already following you and am happy we're connected mutually now :)
Thanks for your valuable adding! This comment could have easily been a post on its own.

[fredrikaa]

Perhaps I'll expand a little bit on each point then and make a post on it sometime in the future. So thank you for the idea and encouragement ^^

Yes, it's nice to be connected. I usually miss out on who is following me unless they also comment on my posts. I try to spend more time and VP rewarding engagement and building relationships rather than all this "follow for follow" behaviour that results in no engagement.

Looking forward to your future posts:)

[surfermarly]

I try to spend more time and VP rewarding engagement and building relationships rather than all this "follow for follow" behaviour that results in no engagement.

That's exactly the way I'm handling it, too :-)