How to stop masturbating and watching pornography?
These are questions that we often hear because many men and women realize that they do not have a healthy relationship with these practices and wish to stop masturbating.
Masturbation is a simple, natural act and is generally encouraged by sexologists.
Pornography is a sexual fantasy like any other.
As is often the case with sexuality, it is not the act that is the problem, but the relationship that one has with this act.
And if you feel that you need to masturbate to feel good, if masturbation and pornography have become your main sources of satisfaction,
If this has repercussions on your life in general, your sexuality or your relationship, it is without doubt that you have fallen into sexual addiction and this on the other hand is a problem because if you do not already feel the negative effects this may not take long to happen.
Sexual problems such as loss of desire for your partner, difficulty in ejaculating or erection problems, a more aggressive and disrespectful sexuality, but also a drop in morale or even a depression and in the most extreme cases a danger of not respecting the law, because our brain loves sex and pornography.
We come from thousands of years of evolution and during all this time the brain has privileged not what made us happy, but what was good for the species, the brain does not care about the individual and only the species in a general way interests it.
So, it programmed us to crave a certain number of things which allowed us to stay alive and to reproduce.
These are our impulses, and for this it used what is called the reward system method.
This means rewarding ourselves every time we do something our instincts tell us is right, like eating when we are hungry, drinking when we are thirsty or ejaculating.
Because of our brain every ejaculation is potentially one more human on earth.
In our case the reward is the secretion of a substance called dopamine, which is responsible for the feeling of pleasure that we feel in certain activities, and which also has a role in motivation.
And in sexuality the reward system is particularly powerful.
We rarely have an orgasm while drinking a glass of water.
So much so that the mere idea of a sexual act has already triggered a relatively strong initial secretion of dopamine, a sort of free sample to make us want to go further.
Moreover, for a long time it was difficult for a man to see a woman naked and even more to see her making love.
So we have become extremely sensitive and easily aroused sexually.
For homosexuals, it's the same because even if you are attracted to people of the same sex as you, your instinct remains a reproductive instinct.
And besides, if you have children, there is a good chance that these children themselves are heterosexual.
So when 20 years ago the high speed internet and the easy access pornography arrived our brain became crazy.
For him, the internet is a real treasure chest filled with women who are always more beautiful, always different and who do ever more hardcore stuff.
Thanks to the masturbation in our skulls, dopamine flows freely.
But after a while, the dopamine receptors get damaged, they become less sensitive and to have the same pleasant sensation we need a larger quantity of this substance and therefore stronger stimuli, which leads us to watch harder videos that sometimes generate a feeling of guilt.
But this has consequences for the rest of our life, the daily acts, what we call the small pleasures with their low dose of dopamine, can lose their interest, a drop in morale sets in, even a depression.
After a while, masturbation and pornography become the main sources of satisfaction, reinforcing the vicious circle of addiction, and sometimes leading to social isolation.
It also has consequences on our sexuality because the brain used to strong and stimulating images can after a while, not find a normal sexual partner exciting enough even if she is beautiful and even if we have very strong feelings for her.
We lose our sexual desire for her.
We have trouble ejaculating and sometimes even erectile dysfunction.
If you want to regain your sexual abilities, feel good and be happy as a couple, you must absolutely escape from this prison that masturbation and pornography have become.
It is not easy because sexual addiction is a real addiction like smoking or alcoholism, to succeed you must be well prepared, motivated and know what you are attacking, because we fight better an enemy that we know, that is the purpose of this article.
To succeed in stopping masturbation you must:
Prepare yourself well.
You will go through a period of withdrawal while the dopamine receptors repair themselves, and you may experience a drop in morale or even a slight depression.
You will also have a period of fragility and it is likely that in a few times a simple sexy photo becomes very exciting for you.
This could be the beginning of the spiral that will make you crack so you must protect yourself.
Delete from your computer your smartphone or your tablet any photo or video.
Install porn blockers with a complicated password that you will not be able to remember.
I also advise you to put your computer in a busy place where you will miss the privacy.
And a little tip, put up a mirror, it's a productivity trick that allows you to work better, but also that when you risk cracking to surprise your reflection in the mirror can give you the will to resist.
You must beware of social networks because often sexy photos are hidden in places where they are least expected.
Delete all dangerous accounts and even ideally if you can, stay away from these websites at least for a while.
Improve your lifestyle, try to eat better, and get enough sleep.
Take up sport if you don't do it, and if you are already a sportsperson try to set yourself motivating challenges.
You must also learn relaxation techniques because it is likely that today masturbation is your way to relax and stopping masturbation you will deprive yourself of this method and risk having a resurgence of stress that could make you relapse.
If on the contrary, you do it in an intelligent way and that you invest yourself well, you will become a new person a better sexual partner more sensual and virile.
But also, a happier man or woman, more confident, and therefore more attractive because all this is connected.
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