Say it a little louder for the people in the back!
How do we teach this to all young men and women? Being a teenage girl was the worst; even if you weren't sexually active, there was always that underlying expectation that if you were, you needed to be "slutty," but not so slutty that you were considered gross.
This is a great post.
Thanks Kelsey!
Yeah, there's a lot of negative education of women regarding sexuality. I've heard some good arguments that it starts young. Instead of "Don't touch yourself there, that's wrong!" we use phrases like, "That's a private, special thing. Please do that in private." The moralizing of human sexuality leads to the opposite outcomes of those who are doing the moralizing. If there is no victim, there really is no crime.
Hopefully we can promote positive examples of what healthy sexuality looks like and save our shaming for people who actually promote lies and nonconsensual interactions which lower wellbeing. Hopefully we can talk openly and honestly with young men and women about what real intimacy is.