I remember from my mother two phrases: "the woman, at home and the free man" and "do not run through the streets, you look like a man without a manga", who let me go when I, being a dwarf, was running in droves with the rest of children through the streets of the town where we were spending our summer holidays.
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Behind these deeply sexist phrases there was, evidently, a terribly unfair education regarding the female gender that is what my poor mother received and, as there was no other, she transmitted to her daughters.
But beyond those phrases, today sexist statements persist that we repeat to children who are very unfair. Here are a few:
- "Those things are children: does not be a tomboy ". As soon as a girl shows interest in something that is supposed, it should not be associated with her gender (for example, if she wants to play with cars), the sentence falls. The same is the case if the child wants to have a baby stroller or play with dolls. In this case, there will even be some even more pejorative argument, bordering on homophobia (when not directly homophobic): "if you buy the kitchen, you are going to spoil it". Is this aberration familiar?
- "Girls wear long hair (or earrings)": of course because you have to respond to a beauty canon established, right? Type the girl Barbie, for example. Which brings us to the next point...?
- "Do not cry, with how beautiful you are": and we continue with the stereotypes of beauty that, besides, are not real, just as sizes are not when we grow up, as adults. You have to educate in the diversity of physicists.
- "The dolls are girls, cars, and boys": or football is for them and for girls, ballet. Of course, and as adults, they are engineers and them, teachers.
- “Girls do not hit them ": why? Do children get hit? We should say "do not hit" without more.
- “Girls are weak/fragile ": children are strong. In this style, there are many, such as saying that children are more affectionate and girls are twisted (this we also hear about as adults). Or that they are gross and much moved and when it is a girl, it draws attention to the whole world. Actually, it is assigning labels, in itself, and when they do not respond to them, it hits us.
- "Do not wear that, which is not very feminine ": this phrase also refers us to previous points related to what society considers being feminine and masculine. Another error of manual.
- "Do not play badly for being a girl ": of course, because we already know that women have come to this world to crochet and remove poop, while they can play the ball and hunt bison. Another tremendously macho phrase that gives children to understand that there are games for them and others, for them. Depending on your gender.
- "You stick like a girl" / "Nenaza": again a phrase that emphasizes the weakness of girls in the face of the physical supremacy of boys.
We could continue with many more phrases that we "give" to the children and that, of course, does not educate them in gender equality or in diversity or anything positive. So let's fine and try to correct the language.