Sorry I'm so late to the game. I'm just now able to respond.
I've also wondered why people are so "shy" about their sexuality. It's the same age old question: nature or nurture?
And, as with most, I think the answer is both. There's definitley a nurture component to it. Indeginous socieities across the world were/are notoriously relaxed about sexuality, at least until they were shamed by their conquerors. So, cultural shaming (nurture) plays a big role.
But I do think there's a nature component also. Specifically all human egos naturally seek to deny their vulnerability. Denying/hiding vulnerability is in the very nature of ego. And publicly acknowledging the true extent of our fascination with sex in general, or specific acts/people in particular, makes us feel incredibly vulnerable. What if they don't share our particular kink/fascination/interest? What if they try to make me explain it and I can't? I'll feel weird and ostracized, says the ego.
Sex holds incredible power over us, the significance of which we often seek to hide or diminish for reasons that aren't a result of nurture, but nurture still plays a huge role, I think.
Great reply! Thank you, Sean.
Really good point.
So well said. I know you've delved deeper into the ego of consciousness than I have, but I'm trying to learn new things all the time.
Vulnerability is so very hard for us. It's like we're still thinking in terms of "we might die at any moment!" primitive thinking while we have safety and abundance all around us.
Oh, also, I'm reading The Red Queen right now and enjoying it.