Hi friends,
I will make this short, because it is a bit of an odd post, but yet, I will accept the challenge and write it.
Last night, I was chatting with some (male) friends at a bar close by. And I don't really know why, but suddenly I felt really turned on (ladies, you know what I mean...).
Although, among each other, women talk very openly about feelings, sex, partners, ..., this isn't usually something I would talk about with my male friends. However, yesterday I took the leap and told my friends I was turned on (well, actually, I giggly said that I was horny => the direct approach, so I could back out and say I was kidding). Now, these are guys I know I can trust not to take advantage of me. I mean, I wasn't aiming at sleeping with one of them.
At first, they looked at me, kinda astonished, then at each other, as to try to figure out an appropriate response. They were really taken of guard and I could see they felt uncomfortable. Ladies, as you know, there are a few topics that make men uncomfortable when in the presence of girls: sex, our period, breasts, ... How weird it is, as, I can imagine, they speak about (some of these) almost all the time (among each other).
Anyway... it took them a moment to get themselves back together and then came the expected response: You're a women, for you it's easy to get laid (yes, in those exact words). Well, that may be true. No surprise here: men are easier to seduce than women. Way easier... But, and I am being honest, when I told them "I'm feeling horny", I didn't imply "I want to have sex". I was just being open about how I felt.
I tried to explain that to them, but they kept arguing that there's no point for me to say I'm horny, if I'm not looking to get lucky. Well, I guess there's one of those differences between men and women. Why did I say it then? Well... if I'm really honest, because it made me feel well. Okay, guys, this is hard to explain. (Girls, you will understand!) Just daring to express your (sexual) thoughts, gives some sexual release and makes you... well... feel satisfied.
My friends didn't get it... but I had a great time... just talking :-)
Hugs,
L.
Everything has a cause, doesn't it? The question is what made you feel horny? One of your friends or maybe another guy in the bar.?
I have lady friends too and If they would tell me :'I'm horny', I would think that she wants to sleep with me as well. Just basic man instincts .I wasn't surprised that your guy friends were confused though. :)
I definitely understand! Sometimes it's nice to revel in your feelings and not necessarily take steps to resolve them.