Excellent! Someone else taking a public interest in this will be helpful.
I've had one nonejaculatory orgasm when my wife and I were newlyweds. We were fucking so much back then, I just figured I ran out, and it's been a mystery for us both in the following decade until I started looking into it this past few months. My reading hasn't passed into physical books yet, but usually web articles in incognito mode (for some reason, the taboo of self development belongs there).
I'll recommend a poscast that I deeply hope will bring up more about the topic one day. Kim Anami's Orgasmic Enlightenment Podcast is excellent, but it focused heavily on female orgasm and ejaculation. She does have a few episodes about men, and perhaps if we all ask her, she'll do more on male performance. A bit of obvious caution: the podcast is 100% NSFW. She's very into taoism and chakras and crystals and energy work, which is all new to me and I don't have any sources whatsoever about, so I know next to nothing on that front.
Yeah, weird we tend to hide while in truth we all crave better understanding of our intimacy.
Thanks for sharing your experience and recommending such an interesting podcast! Definitely will be checking it out and integrating ideas into this discussion.