Exactly. I can only agree with you, and I have also experiencing this with loved ones. What I have noticed is that accepting them as they are instead of meddling in is what makes them melt into our consciousness stream.
One small-scale example:
About 3 years ago I was in the supermarket with my mother, and I was searching for a toothpaste wihtout fluoride because of its toxicity. My mother was immediately dismissing my behavior as metaphysical/esoteric nonsense since she was of the opinion, like most, that fluoride is very conducive. Well, I didn't comment on that, never mentioned this topic again and decided to let them experience themselves as they wish. Then, about a year ago my mother came to me out of the blue and told me that she now uses toothpaste without fluoride because it's toxic. She didn't have this change of mind because I told her back then and then thought about it, but simply because she subconsciously connected to my consciousness stream and adapted it without notice, and then did her own research in some way.
Just to give an example. Of course this applies to ALL agencies of people ;)