Don't confuse love with lust. Lust will bind you. Attraction its not a choice. Lust its of an animalistic nature. It is necessary for reproduction but its not for love. Love is a choice. Love sets you free it does not bind you. It makes you invest though, it makes you risk, love is an adventure. Lust is predictable, it obeys specific rules. Love does not obey any rule. Love is the rule. Love is the law. Love under will.
Sow a thought and you will reap an emotion. Sow an emotion and you will reap an action. Keep sowing actions and you will reap a habit. Sow a habit and you will get a character. Sow nothing and you will reap love. Don't do anything and love will arise in your being.