A good question. Thank you. I found that I had to start doing to make changes. It is so easy to intellectually entertain the idea of change, yet as long as I remained inactive nothing did. It was through the power of action that new strength and habits began forming. I had to make a commitment to change and doing, which wasn't easy. It required me to become aware of what the internal dialogue was whispering. It did not want me to leave its embrace as it whispered why things were not possible. Why things were to large to tackle. I had to ignore those whispers and do, and over time the whispers began to change as I replaced the stagnant, diseased thoughts with ones of power from my doings.
I still have a lot of work to do, my mind whispering in reaction to the events caused by people. But I am slowly transforming to a position where I am letting go of things beyond my control.