Spotlight Writing Contest #2: Eliminate Being Selfish and Egotistical

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A good character will take you anywhere, if you have a bad character, no one will want to help you or love you but if you have a good character, not being selfish, people will always remember you, how you made them feel even after a very long time.

Carve your name on hearts and not stone because we will always be remembered by what we did.

In Africa, Nelson Mandela is remembered by what he did. What you do for yourself alone dies with you but what you do for others and the world REMAINS.

It is a small and round world, what goes around comes back around. What you give out, finds its way back to you. If you give out love, peace, happiness, it will find its way back to you. You shall reap what you sow.
Sometimes you should sit and relax and let life happen without incessant worry and micromanagement. Live at the moment, be cheerful, be happy and appreciate the good things. You don't have to be egotistical.

Why don't you believe in others?
Put yourself down to others, we're all Humans, no one is perfect and better. Care be about others and be altruistic.
We should be dresses and clothed in COMPASSION. If we have no mercy towards others that is one proof that we have never experienced God's mercy.

Why don't you want to help others? You can't make it alone. Live for the benefits of others, make this world a beautiful place. Don't look out only for your own interests but take an interest in others too.

Let's look at the bible passage
Philippians chapter 2 versus 3

Let nothing be done through strife or vain glory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves." King James Version (KJV)
It means "Don't be selfish, don't try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves."

Do not look out for your own interests alone. If you are greedy and selfish, you cannot win this game.

If you've read the bible passage of Isaiah chapter 39 versus 5-8 when Isaiah told Hezekiah the word of the Lord of hosts, he told him that his properties and also the ones his fathers had stored up for him will be carried off to Babylon.
King Hezekiah made a very selfish decision which affected his future generation.

Selfishness is a destructive agent. God's desire is for you to be a blessing to others.
What is the motive behind the decision you are making?
Is it for your selfish purpose?
Do you use your skills for your selfish purpose?
Well, look beyond yourself, God is counting on you.

"When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind and beautiful." - Yogi Bhajan

Be honest and be a cheerful giver.

**HOW TO STOP BEING SO EGOTISTICAL** 1. Try to be humble 2. Show your best self by being kind, try to pay attention and understand others. 3. Show appreciation for what they can add to your life. 4. Do not brag

**HOW TO STOP BEING SELFISH** 1. Be a good listener 2. Put your needs or wants last 3. Put yourself in their shoes 4. Be willing to give 5. Let all your grudges go.

Remember this, you are not important than anyone else. Don't let your past dictate your future. Give the spotlight to others.
Do you know that being selfish can ruin your relationship?
Ignoring your partner? Trying to put yourself first. STOP SELFISHNESS
Selfishness is part of the power of sin. One problem is, we notice when other people are being selfish to us, we notice when they put themselves and their own needs or interests before ours but we rarely notice when it is us who are being selfish.
How often do you think of yourself being selfish? Selfishness is an insidious sin when I say "insidious" I mean "entrap", " alluring" but "harmful. The world's template for success is " climb over whoever you have to, roll over the top of whoever you have to, crush through to get wherever you are going."
I was after greatness. I wanted people to recognise my achievements. Well it doesn't work that way.
In the book of Matthew chapter 23 versus 11 and 12

"But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant and whosoever shall exalt himself shall be abased; and that shall himself shall be exalted."

I thought about that a lot, look at that first sentence "But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant." The greatest people in my life, the ones whom I truly honour are the ones who have served me more than all the others.

When I figured out the deep truth of what Jesus said: "But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant." My motivations changed and then it was time to live that our, relationship by relationship, interaction by interaction and here was what I discovered when I took my selfishness out, all of a sudden life became much easier.

Let's look into James chapter 3 versus 16

"For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work."

This Bible passage has said it all, absolutely right! Take away selfishness and instead of wickedness, confusion, what you get will be peace.
I learned how to collaborate instead of obliterate, what a great way to live your life.
Stop the Selfishness, conflict reduces, peace increases.

Have a listen to a bit more of James chapter 17 and 18

"But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle and easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. 18 and the fruit of righteousness is down in peace of them that makes peace."

Give up selfishness, sow peace.

Let me ask you a question.
Are you prepared to love others the way Jesus loved you?

Eliminate selfishness and Ego.
Egocentric. Conceited. Know-it-all. Self-absorbed. Egomaniac.- they all mean the same thing.

Most self-centered people don't realize how self-centered they really are, maybe that's probably because they believe that they can do no wrong because they are too centered in their own greatness.

You may think that you are special and you need to be appreciated by those around you, there are over seven billion people in the world and someone out there is prettier than you, smarter than you, richer than you.

There is no need to brag, there is no need to inform others of how much you have made it or make it seem like you are the only one capable of making it happen. No one really cares how much money you made, how many celebrities you know, what grades you got, how many politicians your parents know, if Rihanna is your sister. What they will care about is how good you made them feel.

Why do you think people react so negative towards you? It is plain and simple, it is because you exude negative energy.

If you do not stop being selfish and egotistical, you will miss out important opportunities. Pay attention to how people respond to you, pay attention to their tune of voice, pay attention to their body language. Put yourself in the other person's shoes. Listen to what your friend is saying, smile, nod and politely contribute to the conversation by asking related questions and offering sound advice. People have their own ups and downs to deal with. You might love to be in the company of some people you like but if they don't pay attention to you the way you want it to be. Do not insult them or get angry at them, you don't know what they are going through or what is actually wrong with them. Always consider the situations of the people you are talking to because you never just know how selfish you might sound.
Get to know the people around you, be friendly.
Imagine your colleague at work knows everything about you, where you live, what you ate, how you got to work, how your husband is maltreating you but the only think you know about her is just her name. Don't just tell people your problems, hear theirs also.
Do not be boastful, well there is nothing wrong with being proud but always be modest when publicizing your successes and do not compliment yourself alone.

For example: "I am very grateful to @ehiboss for introducing me to steemit, now I am happy to say that I have learnt a lot of new things and I've achieved some goals"

Do something nice for everyone you care about.
Get involved in donating, lend a hand to those in need as it will open your eyes to a whole new world. Help those in need like orphanage home and always try and assist people.

Let those close to you know what you are doing. You will need people to support you, don't just do things alone because you will need their help and advice. You will find out that the world is much more a pleasant place to love in once you change your mindset.

The way you approach every day's life is not the simplest thing in the world to achieve, but if you make an effort there is no reason why you won't be able to get there.

Yeah! All of us can be selfish at times especially when we want something badly. If your selfish streak is more of a behavioural trait and less of an occasional occurrence that is something you need to pay attention to.

You need to realize that as big or difficult as your problems may appear just as demanding or difficult.

SELFISHNESS IN A RELATIONSHIP

Laziness
You believe that what you do in life is more meaningful and important than your partner's
You expect your partner to change for you probably because you believe they are not good enought for you. Maybe if your partner is too fat, then you keep on complaining for them to get weight loss.
You want things your way, you don't always agree with your partner. Maybe if your partner wants to go to KFC but you want MALL and you're always in a command tone, deciding where you guys need to hang out.
Ego, when you have pride, you don't want to help in some things due to the ego
You don't trust your partner.
Competitive, you always want to take the big meat
You don't apologize, you believe that you're always right
Emotional blackmail, hurting your partner emotionally is a selfish way of winning arguments.

Being selfish can not get you anywhere so learn to be humble and friendly, what you do to other people will be done to you. Remember also that Selfishness is a sin and you have to deal with. Follow what is written in the bible if you want peace to reign in your life. Do you want confusion, wickedness to dwell in you? If No, work on yourself, what is that think people don't like in you, if it is that you are the boastful type or a selfish person. Why don't you start working on it

Let us be a cheerful giver because there is always a reward for the good people and bad people. Be happy, live a fruitful life, love your neighbours, your colleagues, your friends and always speak out and listen to what people have to say. Do not judge or criticize anyone.

Be humble and think before you act.
Animals do help each other also, According to my english dictionary Altruism is doing good without expecting any recognition.
Ants and honeybees regularly sacrifice themselves for the sake of their colony. Female bats commonly share their food with dozens of their neighbours who have had no catch that day and need nutrition. Chimpanzee feeding a hungry cub.
But we Humans, When was the last time we went out of our way to help complete strangers, putting ourselves in harm’s way? Would you even clean a disabled neighbour’s house?
HELP SOMEONE AND STOP BEING SELFISH AND EGOTISTICAL

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