" But I am not going to divest steem nor ethereum because some idiot sends me virtual tokens i want nothing to do with. "
You don't need to. You can simply sell the tokens you don't want at an exchange. Think of it like a dividend payment for being a Steem holder - a fringe benefit.
If you job gave you a bonus of $10,000 in Playboy stock...you'd sell it, not refuse it, right? Selling the project on the open market lowers the price and reduces its market cap...it expresses dissatisfaction and slightly "harms" all other holders.
Whether this is good enough on any particular moral battlefield for you, well, YMMV. The other option is self-immolation.
Note: Not disagreeing with anything you said, just musing out "loud".
I would decline the payment of playboy stock if able. But there is no declining what goes into your crypto mailing address. Since holding/ignoring/burning it tends to increase the market value by reducing the amount in circulation/market, you are correct that the best thing to do, if it is worth the hassel, is selling it and hurt the holders and probably anonymously donate the proceeds to some cause. I am in no rush to convert crypto into fiat, but it looks like they are in no rush to distribute them either.