Yup, it's nerdy alright..I have avoided wargame 'clubs' after my first 6 or 7 forays into them, back in the day- they are full of nerds, mate ! ... lol..
(And I avoid discord at the best of times - so one full of wargamers...? ...mmm).
Which all loops back nicely to the topic of your thread...I'm whining.....I'll stop now..