I think I can address one issue here:
"Hell, the site crashes all the time, everyday. Instead of planning the next hardfork, how about working on the site's stability? Even for a little bit?"
Steemit's daily active authorship is up 6x since 6/1/17. That kind of spike in users would have rendered my company's web services far more unreliable than Steemit has been, if it was a linear increase. I've noticed Steemit being down for a few seconds at a time. I actually think it's holding up fairly well to the traffic surge. The Alexa rank is from around 11k to 8k in that time, too.