Absolutely love your post, @javybar! 💚
Parents have been taught that they need to correct children's behavior.
But they do not need to. As it is THEIR behavior that has the most impact on their children.
When they are clear and congruent, the child will always follow.
Sure, it may take some time because changing their behavior isn't sooooo easy.
Isn't it strange this expectation that a child change their behavior on a dime but the minute they realize it is THEIR behavior that has to change...Then parents unerstand, it isn't nearly as easy as they expected!?
The parents working with focusing on their own behaviour instead of children's behaviour will see great results.
In some cases the behavior of the child changes within hours when the parent shifts their own dynamic.
The child is never the problem and never has a problem, they are simply pointing to the areas where the parents are not congruent or clear.
It really is this simple. Easy...nope.
Because parents are adults with a whole lot of conditioning it is harder work to change their behavior...and it is the most effective way to change the behavior of their children...because when they shift their conditioning and behavior...they do not pass on the dysfunctional patterns and kids shift rapidly because they have less conditioning!! ☺
Amazing analysis! You described this subject deeper than anyone. I agree with you very well. Children come with their own personality as well that may be a little different than their parents, but parents have the most influence in the children's development. Seems like more parents need to see this post :)