As someone who too has been in and escaped from a narcissistic and controlling relationship, I can understand the strength that it took to remove yourself and your family from this situation.
In moving on you are finding your true voice and the confidence to be who you really are and that there's no need to a part of a clique in order to do that. And through airing your voice you're becoming stronger and healing with each post.
Thank you @redwellies that means so much to me, especially as someone who has been there. I am finding my voice and actually liking the sound of it now haha