"This experience of being in an emotionally abusive relationship with a personality-disordered man taught me people are not what they appear to be." I believe you need my book because what you describe happened to me too. I had a very similar experience and I think we could benefit from discussing this further. Sociopaths tend to zero in on people who have empathy because they tend to lack it. I have talked with many people, both men and women who have accidentally got mixed up with a sociopath. Our stories are eerily similar, with the end result that we tend to isolate after such an experience. I can say, that after six years, I have recovered my identity, self and energy, but I still isolate, and I do not trust in the same way. I see that also I have a new level of fear, that I have to deal with on a daily basis. It definitely changed my brain chemistry, I believe. It's a long process, but I can say that you can recover. It takes a lot of time, and I think a lot of going through what happened. How long ago did this happen to you?
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It's true what you say about sociopaths and other disordered individuals being drawn to those with empathy. And the fear? Yes, there's that. It permeates every aspect of my life, keeps me tethered to the safe confines of my home and workplace. There was so much I was doing before him, so many things on my bucket list, so many ambitions I had...and I've dropped everything. I would love to read your book as I know, from your words, that we've experienced the same soul-raping experience.I left him two years ago this summer. @stellabelle, I don't believe we "accidentally" connected with these men. According to people like narcopath Sam Vaknin and psychologist Richard Gannon--himself a survivor of narcissistic abuse--our vulnerability to these monsters is a result of childhood conditioning, most often due to a narcissistic or borderline parent. In going through my recovery process I've had to face so many childhood incidents where I was devalued and humiliated. I learned to hide my true self and use a people-pleasing facade to avoid punishment and confrontation. I learned how to accommodate and normalize verbal and emotional abuse. I learned to associate abuse with love.
i just sent out your book, 1-2 weeks to ship...
Thank you! I'll post a review once I've read it.