"I really want an answer to the question, but I don't know how to get it."
By expressing this, you are getting closer to finding the answers.
What is the best way to help the community?
Before you can truly help others, you've got to narrow down your own strengths. This is a lot like the airplane situation. Before strapping on an oxygen mask to your children, put the mask on yourself first.
How can I "pull my weight"
Ask yourself this question: what are you really, really good at and that you enjoy doing? (besides drugs, sex, etc.)
Is there a preferred way to allocate the funds in your wallet in order to help the community?
You need to refocus on your own needs first. Do you need cash or are you financially secure? If you are doing ok financially, then putting your funds into Steem Power is best. I usually go the route of using the 7 days, because it's easier for me to do so.
How much Steem Power does it take for your vote to be worth .01 (at full voting power)? I don't know.
How about .02? I don't know.
Can you create too much content?
Yes, you can. The better question to ask yourself is this: what else besides creating content can grow this platform? I'd answer this: write high-quality comments which support and encourage others (that's how I got a high rep score, which led to trust, which led to followers). I'd also advise doing some real-world outreach events, or parties. (I have yet to do this, but am planning to)
If I see 50 good things in a day, should I vote for all 50 or does that make the votes meaningless? I think it dilutes your vote....I try to focus more like on 20.
How can we make minnows feel valued?
Minnows need to focus their energy on cultivation of high quality comments, and create stronger bonds among each other. Also, try to reach out as much as possible, mentors are available to those with passion and a strong sense of ethics. You're doing good so far in asking questions and being sincere. I've just asked if I can be a mentor to someone recently, and this happened out of a natural progression of friendship....
Am I asking the right questions?
Yes. Just being vulnerable and asking questions is the right step. Learning and absorbing info is also good. I related to your story about @ned. I did the same thing in the beginning. I would focus on reaching out more, commenting more and treating Steemit like the real world of social creatures. We are all craving high quality engagement. Provide that for others and you will see how rewards can organically grow from that value.
Wow. Thank you for the incredibly thoughtful response. It has given me a lot to think about. I believe it all starts with being active, available and helpful. I think I can do that. Time to go think...