I reckon it's only a contest if you're trying to win ;)
I see it as more of a forum, because that's what I come here for - to air and hear ideas in a melting pot.
I have endured a dissatisfaction with people so profound that I am considered a recluse by those that know me today. The thing is, I am not a recluse, I just cannot abide the fermented despair and doublethink imposed by society (in America) so simply opt out, in order to avoid having those influences injected into my mind and person.
This causes me no end of difficulties, particularly with lack of substantive criticism. Most people I encounter are trained to talk behind ones back, rather than offer straightforward comment.
This is not useful to me, so I extend my reach on here, to those that, like myself, and you also, will make comment that is not designed to save the face of whom you are talking to, and may actually help them reconsider what they need to.
I reckon I 'win' just by being here, popularity be damned!
I can only echo your sentiments of being an outcast in a dysfunctional society.