Exactly. And very well said.
Drawing conclusions is a tricky business. One must be careful as to not force too much of their own experience into the situation- keeping in mind everyone reacts differently to an event.
Practicing empathy toward the other while removing oneself, essentially.
And, oh yes- empathy to oneself is just as important. We humans have a tendency to be easier and kinder to others than we are on ourselves.
:)