My son is thirteen and as silent as a grave. I'd find it interesting if he told me how his first kiss turns out. I believe, however, that I would be the wrong address and that the father, an elderly man or uncle who is considered wise, is actually taking up this communication. My son finds me embarrassing in public when I show impulses of youthful verve or joke. He doesn't want his parents to be cool or others to get to the level of young people or to act that way. I think he's right. Instead of wanting to be like our teenagers, our teenage children should strive for maturity and get rid of their coolness at some point. That this will happen during puberty and well into the twenties is rather unusual, and one might be a little sceptical about that when the distinction between parents and children is as little or a young person is already as reasonable as one would like him to be.
Young people lack life experience and they will all become stupid at some point. It is not a question of "if" but only "when". Threats of rule violations therefore remain quite ineffective, even if rules are actually important.
I think it's funny that you realize that contrary to your ideal idea you're not the cool mum and instead you just have classic parental worries.
Trust is probably the only "weapon" we have as parents.
I wish you all the best on this exciting journey and take my hat off to your fivefold motherhood!
Wow, I loved reading this. You're spot on, trust is our only real weapon. Thank you so much for sharing your views with me and your well wishes for the journey ahead, I cannot believe I have to do this 3 more times lol.