This is a great post! My 13 year old is my guru. Unreservedly, even on our "suboptimal days". Actually, usually on those days I learn the most from her. I have just started on discord so when I find my feet a little more, I will check out STEEMmamas.
They're really amazing. They understand so much and at such a deep level. I resisted discord for a long time, and even now I try to keep it to a dull roar. It's so easy for it to eat all your time. Do check out steemmamas. There's a growing crew of parents of older children.