Distance relationship let an unmet need for physical presence, to be close to each other.
Nowadays, long-distance relationships are no longer a rarity, on the contrary. In addition, new technology encourages this trend.
"E-mail, SMS, Facebook, enable permanent connection, so distance is no longer a problem as big as before," says Diana Kirschner, author of "Love in 90 Days".
But it can be extremely difficult to keep the flame lit if not taken into account some key clues that will feed the connection.
Seafarers often happens that when they say what they do, they receive an answer from her : "I do not want a relationship with a navigator" ... why? Because of the distance.
Distance has pluses and minuses, depending on your principles, your motives, your dreams as you see. It means sacrifice from both sides, it means compromise and understanding, patience, respect, all related to love.
If love is sincere, however they come along naturally. Sacrifice, because both have a future together as they desire. Compromise, because they come times when maybe another time you'd react totally different, but he / she changed tactics to be benefit relationship. Lifestyle change program and so on. Understanding the moments of stress from both sides, because both to face change. Patience, patience when counting hours, minutes, days, so you will meet, reunite. Respect, respect each other's time and life, respect for how to stay balanced himself busy when not near you.
However all these are about love, all the above are features that should come with love.
Your partner is not your territory. Must have his space and freedom to make choices in order not to feel suffocated.
Sometimes distance can be hundreds of kilometers, thousands, or even a few meters, when the partner / partner is in the other room in the house. It remains only to your appreciation what distance means to see, how you see it.
A big plus in a relationship with someone that leaves a longer period of time may be that every time you see each other you can fall again in love to one another. It would not be a dream couple? But it can not be just a dream, it can be a reality as long as in the period in which the physical distance between you, you maintain your connection and your relationship is moving forward.
Often the two are too busy with each ones activities; the job, worries, stress, but they are at home, anytime and anywhere. These concerns are in anyone's home, anytime and anywhere. Your reaction to them matters, whether they are for you only stress factors that come bundled with your job or heavy stress that it can pas with really great calm.
And all this stress and scurry after the job you want, and money, and "x" desires all achievable from a financial standpoint, you as a couple, where you stand? What do you do for you?
Always the two have to show more maturity. It requires a good knowledge of their needs and expectations, taking aware of the difficulties that come with such a relationship.
It is said that you can live a life with a men/women without getting to know them fully, but nor do we ourselves know.
To know the other one, you need to spend time together, doing things together, talk about values, desires, thoughts and fears and even after all this, we can not guarantee that we know everything about the other, because the truth it is that life does not come with guarantees.
We can say, however, that a good self-knowledge and a better knowledge of how the other one is, increase the chances of success for the relationship.
People who have more trouble with a temporary separation , are people who want to have control over the partner, who do not have a lot of confidence in them or partner / life partner, a n"needy" person or who want more physical closeness, people who have childhood problems related to abandonment.
These people suffer much more and can hardly manage to maintain a good condition during separation.
What can help a long distance relationship is honesty. If you start to experience fear, anxiety, they may be raised in this way the two can connect emotionally and everyone can feel understood each other. It is important to know from the start, the distance is over, that person is more comfortable to know details about the other time will be left for your silence. So you can make plans together and you can think about the future, moving easier over time distancing. The person who stays at home is also subject to changes and needs emotional help from the partner who left.
One without the other support can not succeed .
The above should be discussed at the beginning of a relationship or before departure. Emotionally, it can be difficult for some of you, or very difficult for others depends on several criteria such cope moments when you are not physically next to each other.
As is discussed more and sincerity is present even more can override various factors that occur over time.
Keep in mind, the distance is only for a while, the future is fast approaching and we have freedom to make many beautiful plans in two.
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Oh I know this all too well. All of my relationships have been long distance and I'm currently in one now. We are separated by thousands of miles and I've only seen him for 3 weeks out of the year and a half we've been together. It's definitely been hard. I promised myself after the last time that I wouldn't do it again but here I am. Fighting the good fight and hoping that he's the one. It's difficult and it's sad and sometimes I feel like I'm losing my mind but I just keep reminding myself that time always moves forward and eventually I'll see him again. I'm hoping to be moving down there this summer so we don't have to do this long distance thing anymore. So hopefully that all works out the way I want it to. Phone calls and video chats certainly help and we try to spend time together whenever we can. But communication is definitely the key.
yes indeed my dear...communication is the key to all problems!
I'm not a stranger to this, I must say what really helped was constant communication. Skype helps a great deal coz that way, even though miles apart, you feel connected to a person for a short time when you get to see their face. In addition, this requires more commitment and realistic timelines, one person has to sacrifice and agree to move to the other if there's any hope of the relationship maturing into something blissful in the near future. Otherwise, it can be really difficult and a waste of time.
Yes indeed...I am too in this situation of "long distance relationship" and I am happy that we have internet and applications helping us the mentain our relationship 🤗