Hello steemit! when talking about domestic violence, comes to mind, almost automatically, a woman who is physically or psychologically assaulted by her partner. An appreciation that is almost normal since this type of violence is the most frequent in our environment. The cases in which women are mistreated are those that most reach the corresponding instances. Although the numbers of mistreatment against women are much higher, it can not be ignored that there is also domestic violence against men.
Some researchers consider that violence against men is a serious social problem, because although more attention would have been paid to violence against women, it could be argued that violence against men in different contexts is a significant social problem worthy of attention; however, this would be a social taboo
Among the reasons why violence against men is considered a social taboo, would be the contradiction that has its existence with the role of stereotyped gender that sees men as the strong sex, so "is despised and few countries know about studies about the violence of women against men, even if they exist ».
These are the types of violence that a man suffers and is always silent:
Degradation: This is a type of violence that is exerted in both types of gender. It consists in making the other person feel devalued, and a dependency is created in front of his partner. "You're useless, you're a fool."
Cosification: Man stops feeling a person to start being an inanimate object that only obeys orders, does not have the ability to give opinions or think. It becomes a thing and loses its identity.
Intimidation: This type of violence involves threatening the other person in order to remain alert and anxious, which could force him to feel really bad with much fear and fear. Some examples are: "Go home, I'm going to leave with your children and you're going to be left alone, as you're still late one day you'll find me dead."
Overload of responsibilities: It is mandatory for men to all responsibilities, whether family or relationship. He has to accept everything and has no time or head to relax or think about anything else.
Deprivation: This type of violence consists of making man isolate himself from everyone, that is, making friends with each other or his partner, or between his family and his partner. Limit and reduce your chances of socializing.
Distortion of subjective reality: According to the Europapress consultation portal, this type of violence is related to the transformation of the other person's perception. "Man creates a sense of confusion, of constant doubt, he finds himself when the couple appeals to the superiority of their reason or reason, when it makes it obvious or deceives him and makes him see that he is confused, when a small part of him he puts the greatest importance to make him guilty. "
Defensive strategies: This type of violence is psychological and is similar to victimization, making the other feel guilty of everything that happens.
Physical violence: They should never be allowed! A simple cache or a push are examples of violence, do not allow it!
Why do not they report?
The man does not denounce, usually because of the fear of ridicule or the shame of recognizing himself as a victim, besides this motive there are some more:
Lack of support: Both legal and state, lack of support goes both ways. There are no laws that protect abused men, we've all heard about feminicide but did anyone hear about homicide? To this is added that there are no help lines for the abused man.
Credibility problems: Would someone from your family believe you if you tell them that your girlfriend is exerting violence on you? What would your family say if you say that you are a mistreated man? That is one reason why men do not report, have no support, neither family nor their social environment.
Show weak: This generates feelings of humiliation, or guilt. The man feels very bad and is afraid that his manhood will be violated or affected.
The most important thing is that violence, in any of its genres, should not be allowed under any situation, always remember that love does not hurt and should not make us feel bad, much less cause us harm.
https://es.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violencia_contra_el_var%C3%B3n
http://www.elsalvador.com/noticias/nacional/363078/el-maltrato-a-hombres-una-violencia-invisible/
Oh well, I must add that modern feminism has become part of the problem, as their worldview asserts that only women can be victims of intimate partner violence.
Police forces operating under the Duluth model are basically forced to always arrest the man in the case of domestic disturbance calls and the Red Pill movie points out how men who call help hotlines are usually referred to self-help programs for violent men, even if the violence originates solely from the woman or is reciprocal.
This is a clear-cut case of victim blaming and needs to stop.